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Thanks for your replies. The amusing part was our ages and I was trying to be lighthearted. Sorry if you’re not. I was married 43 years. He was married 23. I don’t mention my late husband nearly as much as he does. I’m not suggesting he should forget her any more than I will forget my husband and HS sweetheart. We were together a total of 46 years.
Jealousy, hmm no. The poor dear is dead. But his constant mention of her and pics are a little disturbing to me. I have not said anything yet. He assure me he’s ready to move on and we are very much in love. But, as you said, it’s hard not to talk about such a big part of our lives. Me included. I was just asking about the picture. And thr sheriff was once again trying to be lighthearted. Sorry if yourre not amused.
Thanks so much for telling me the founder stays center stage. That’s what I wanted to know. So center stage she’ll remain. And I know she’s resting in peace along with my hubby because we found each other.
He constantly talks about her, and I always listen and respect his feelings. But this picture is on my mind, and I just would like an unbiased opinion on if it should be moved and our picture put there.
He is not ready for marriage if he still talks about his late wife all the time. You are not ready for marriage if you can't get over a stupid picture of his late wife, who was a co-founder of the church.
Yeah the photo wouldn't bother me so much as the constant talking about his deceased wife would. I'd probably put a pause on the wedding plans and have a down-to-earth talk with this man. He may not even realize he's doing it.
Personally, with both folks having more years behind them rather than in front of them, I think its silly to expect either of them to just stop talking about their former partners and I don't think there's a way to gracefully ask him to stop. She was a huge part of his life as well as the congregations. But if you can't accept that (and I think that'd be a shame) than don't get married. You'll both be unhappy.
Unless you want to bring chaos to the congregation and earn the contempt of the women parishioners do not breathe a word of this amusing question to anyone, not even your friend.
He and his deceased wife are pictured in a place of honor in the church not so much because they were married but because they were founders.
Unless you yourself are a founder, marrying your friend will not make you one.
Did you know his wife? Personally it wouldn't bother me in that situation if he talked about her, unless he was comparing me unfavorably to her.
But if it bothers you, if you're trying to replace her rather than join him in a life together, do him a favor and don't marry him.
But if it bothers you, if you're trying to replace her rather than join him in a life together, do him a favor and don't marry him.
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Thanks for your replies. The amusing part was our ages and I was trying to be lighthearted. Sorry if you’re not. I was married 43 years. He was married 23. I don’t mention my late husband nearly as much as he does. I’m not suggesting he should forget her any more than I will forget my husband and HS sweetheart. We were together a total of 46 years.
Jealousy, hmm no. The poor dear is dead. But his constant mention of her and pics are a little disturbing to me. I have not said anything yet. He assure me he’s ready to move on and we are very much in love. But, as you said, it’s hard not to talk about such a big part of our lives. Me included. I was just asking about the picture. And thr sheriff was once again trying to be lighthearted. Sorry if yourre not amused.
Thanks so much for telling me the founder stays center stage. That’s what I wanted to know. So center stage she’ll remain. And I know she’s resting in peace along with my hubby because we found each other.
Have a blessed day.
I agree since she was a founder the photo should stay.
Perhaps the longer the two of you are together the less he will speak of his first wife. I have never had that kind of love so I really cant comment on that.
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