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But I’m interested to see if after you went on a date what was the reason why you were rejected and does it come off as a surprise to you?
I wish I would know. I have no idea because I have not ever been told. They just disappear. I mean I am not surprised about those dates where there was obviously no chemistry. But I had many first/second/third dates with guys who seem extremely into me, which makes it even weirder. So, I believe in alien abduction.
I wish I would know. I have no idea because I have not ever been told. They just disappear. I mean I am not surprised about those dates where there was obviously no chemistry. But I had many first/second/third dates with guys who seem extremely into me, which makes it even weirder. So, I believe in alien abduction.
I wish I would know. I have no idea because I have not ever been told. They just disappear. I mean I am not surprised about those dates where there was obviously no chemistry. But I had many first/second/third dates with guys who seem extremely into me, which makes it even weirder. So, I believe in alien abduction.
You in particular, this is just about weird. I know you pretty well for an online contact, and the only thing I see going against you is you are taller than some guys and most ladies. But you are physically quite attractive, you have your own job and money, you have your own truck, you don't have kids or "baby rabies", I think you used to work for BMW which as you might guess from my screen name is a *HUGE* plus, at least to me. A gal who can already drive a stick is another plus.
Aliens abducting them makes as much sense as any explanation.
It's been a while since I dated, but none of the men who rejected me never gave me any reasons and I never asked why. I really don't care what their reasons were, if they weren't interested, they weren't interested.
As for me, after my divorce and I started dating again, the main reasons I rejected men were because they couldn't stop talking about their ex wives on the first date (I figured they just weren't over their divorces) or they immediately talked re-marriage on the first date (not something I am interested in so I knew our relationship goals were too far apart). That said, there were a couple of men who, for whatever reason, just didn't click with me. It all felt forced or awkward. I felt bad about that because I went out with both at least three times just to see if it was just a wrong first impression. It wasn't.
You in particular, this is just about weird. I know you pretty well for an online contact, and the only thing I see going against you is you are taller than some guys and most ladies. But you are physically quite attractive, you have your own job and money, you have your own truck, you don't have kids or "baby rabies", I think you used to work for BMW which as you might guess from my screen name is a *HUGE* plus, at least to me. A gal who can already drive a stick is another plus.
Aliens abducting them makes as much sense as any explanation.
Thank you
The height was indicated on my profile. Yes, I was working at BMW engineering. My current M2 is stick shift and I have an older M5.
I have been told from coworkers that I seem reserved if you don't know me but usually when I was having a date I did my best to show enthusiasm and I am easy going once you start talking to me.
I only once got a feedback when I reached out after a date and he said he did not think I was interested because I did not kiss him. Uhm, I don't kiss on a first date but if I am engaged in the conversation, give compliments, the first meet is several hours long and I leave with the words "would love to see you again" wouldn't you think I am interested??
I started making it a point to text the guys when I arrived at home after the date to let them know I want to see them again and then had more luck. Can't believe how scared guys are to reach out after a date. I always thought if they are really interested, they will contact me, but apparently many don't want to get rejected and rather not even send a little text. Ridiculous. Men used to go to war and nowadays they are scared of getting no reply on a text?
The height was indicated on my profile. Yes, I was working at BMW engineering. My current M2 is stick shift and I have an older M5.
I have been told from coworkers that I seem reserved if you don't know me but usually when I was having a date I did my best to show enthusiasm and I am easy going once you start talking to me.
I only once got a feedback when I reached out after a date and he said he did not think I was interested because I did not kiss him. Uhm, I don't kiss on a first date but if I am engaged in the conversation, give compliments, the first meet is several hours long and I leave with the words "would love to see you again" wouldn't you think I am interested??
I started making it a point to text the guys when I arrived at home after the date to let them know I want to see them again and then had more luck. Can't believe how scared guys are to reach out after a date. I always thought if they are really interested, they will contact me, but apparently many don't want to get rejected and rather not even send a little text. Ridiculous. Men used to go to war and nowadays they are scared of getting no reply on a text?
Well I would guess you can be a bit imposing in person but what the Hell? Maybe these psudo guys are best left behind. If I were a bit taller and you were a bit closer...
I’m 5’7” I was told I checked all the boxes but I was too short for a woman that was 5’0”.
I’ve been ghosted a few times given no reasons and when I get the hint…I’m gone.
Most recently, I rejected a woman that wasn’t a good mother- her mom raised her child she didn’t seem to really care enough in conversation about her child who is older now.
Career/Job rejected another because she didnt seem ambitious at all.
I wasn’t physically attracted to another.
Lots of separated woman…kind of bothers me…I probably wouldn’t date if I was a separated from my ex. I’d probably initiate divorce if I wanted to start to see other people.
The most common reason for acceptance has been my "bold" personality. I will assume that some people see "bold" as being arrogant (which can be a turn off for many people).
"My type" of girl usually enjoys arguing with me and openly challenging me. I can totally see where the girl who wants a soft and easy-going guy would view me as a turn off. The girl who wants Mr Bold-creative would view the easy-going guy as being boring.
So I would say my biggest turn off is also my biggest attraction; depending on the girl that I'm seeing.
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