I will never make the first move on a man ever again.

[Archaic]

Originally Posted by Submariner

In our modern culture, when a male gets frustrated fighting the system in search of a mate, he is called an 'incel'.

So what is the term for a female, as is the case with the OP?

Hmm, there is none. Maybe because it is so rare. With males is it so common it is seen as a stereotype.

https://www.britannica.com/topic/incel

The term incel was initially coined by a woman. Known only by her first name, a Canadian woman named Alana began using the term invcel (later shortened to incel) in 1997 to connect with other singles struggling with social awkwardness. She documented her experiences on her personal website, “Alana’s Involuntary Celibacy Project,” which became a forum for people struggling to form romantic relationships. In 2000 Alana stopped participating in the project, and she has since said that she feels uncomfortable with how the term has been hijacked.

It seems that a particular subset of male incels just don't like to share the idea that women might have the same kind of problem.


For most of my life, I was one of those women.


(Until, I should add, I made the first move on a guy on a dating site.)

[neveragain89]

Originally Posted by PJSaturn

So . . . what happened, OP? You posted this 20 hours ago.


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We went on a date and we are just worlds apart different. Never done this before in my life but I kind just wanted some sex too. Sex was good. He thinks we can be friends. I can’t be friends with any one I had romantic feelings or sex with. Kinda of sad about this whole thing. But I had fun. Haven’t had sex in the car since my late teens. He has my fake google number. I’m thinking about blocking his so I don’t anticipate his calls anymore.

Also, I didn’t read him wrong. He told me he purposely did what he did to get my attention and it worked.

And he told me that they are not supposed to hit on customers, nor have a conversation longer than one minute. That’s why I had to make the move. It was just a short-lived fantasy. I don’t regret it. Kind of sad because I’ll miss him now that I’m leaving.

[RubyandPearl]

Originally Posted by neveragain89

We went on a date and we are just worlds apart different. Never done this before in my life but I kind just wanted some sex too. Sex was good. He thinks we can be friends. I can’t be friends with any one I had romantic feelings or sex with. Kinda of sad about this whole thing. But I had fun. Haven’t had sex in the car since my late teens. He has my fake google number. I’m thinking about blocking his so I don’t anticipate his calls anymore.

Also, I didn’t read him wrong. He told me he purposely did what he did to get my attention and it worked.

And he told me that they are not supposed to hit on customers, nor have a conversation longer than one minute. That’s why I had to make the move. It was just a short-lived fantasy. I don’t regret it. Kind of sad because I’ll miss him now that I’m leaving.

Sounds like a happy ending to the vacation.

So I guess you WILL approach men again in the future?

[neveragain89]

Originally Posted by RubyandPearl

Sounds like a happy ending to the vacation.

So I guess you WILL approach men again in the future?

I still like the man to pursue me. I’ll give him BIG hints though like actually talking to him. I’ve gotten more confident now. So at least this was another learning curve.

[wma152]

OP,

What happens when you get into a relationship and he dumps you or cheats on you, are you going to say "I'm never going to get into another relationship again" ?

[JBT1980]

Welcome to the world of Men.

Men don’t reject women because they don’t like being approached they they reject them because they aren’t attracted to who approached them just like women do.