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Just a question due to a few responses I got about a big issue I am facing in the Relationship forum, though the details aren't really necessary for this topic. Anyway, I am 30 married with 2 kids and have a job as an asst manager at a Subway and close to being store manager. I got a few snarky replies to the effect of "You work at Subway??? That's for High schoolers, get a real job!". Of course I freely admit it's far from glorious but at least it is something. That being said I wondered if this had more to do with me being a man and as such when it comes to jobs men are looked at worse for not having what would by many be considered a more "prestigious" job.
Not sure how others feel, but I do wonder, if you think a guy that's my age working at a place such as Subway is sad would the same be said for a woman? If you knew say a 30 year old woman that was working at Subway or McDonald's flipping burgers would people be as quick to call her a loser and tell her to "get a real job!"?
I saw your other post and found some of the comments offensive. I don't think what sex you are matters as far as criticism goes but there are people out there who look down their noses at blue collar workers, service industry workers, and frankly anyone who isn't at their level. You're working, earning money and helping support your family. That should be enough.
Just a question due to a few responses I got about a big issue I am facing in the Relationship forum, though the details aren't really necessary for this topic. Anyway, I am 30 married with 2 kids and have a job as an asst manager at a Subway and close to being store manager. I got a few snarky replies to the effect of "You work at Subway??? That's for High schoolers, get a real job!". Of course I freely admit it's far from glorious but at least it is something. That being said I wondered if this had more to do with me being a man and as such when it comes to jobs men are looked at worse for not having what would by many be considered a more "prestigious" job.
Not sure how others feel, but I do wonder, if you think a guy that's my age working at a place such as Subway is sad would the same be said for a woman? If you knew say a 30 year old woman that was working at Subway or McDonald's flipping burgers would people be as quick to call her a loser and tell her to "get a real job!"?
Why does it matter what others say?
If you are happy... that is all that matters.
And I would same the same thing to the opposite gender.
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I have no idea what's going on in the relationship forum; but, yeah, I do think society has higher expectations for men in the workplace. Not saying it's right or anything,just my observation.
To the OP: I respect everyone out there earning a living. Don't let the haters get to you.
If a female age 30 with 2 kids said she works in subway, even if she worked in non-management position, I would accept it more than male. Sorry for being sexist but In that situation, I would assume the female was taking care of kids & child bearing did not allow her to make career progress. Many women are stay home mom with no job, other female might have completed higher education but had kids before she could start her full career n many women choose retail/service job for flexible hour for their kids....
Because of kids I wouldn't question her career position but if a 30 year old female with no kids had similar job as u, I would judge her the same. Btw having a assistant manager job is not bad. Its not same as flipping burger
Definitely. My grandmother worked in a jewelry store and then at a Wal-mart for a short time.
She lived very well due to her husband's job, and as far as I'm aware nobody ever gave her any grief about it.
I have other female relatives who either never worked or had very menial jobs like my grandmother, and I never hear anyone calling them a "loser." It's always guys who get that label attached to them when they have low-status jobs.
Whether it's fair or not could be a long, drawn out topic, but that's the truth.
Your job is what defines your social status and income, both of which factor into a guy's attractiveness to mature women
The OP is not trying to attract mature women....
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