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My boyfriend just recently got laid off. He was with the company for eight years and was doing fairly well. I guess the company was downsizing so they got rid of him. He is not laid off until February and he received an eight month severance package so I thought he would be ok. But instead he has not wanted to have anything much to do with me. He said he has not seen anyone lately. He is taking care of his business. He has a short temper. And I am worried about him. He just wants me to leave him alone until he is ready to speak with me which is not an easy request. I am trying my best to understand what he is going through. At times I am unsure if it is really his job or he is using it as an excuse to get rid of me. Which ever it is I would love some feed back. I just want to understand what he is going through and if these feelings are legitimate.
I do think men value their career/job more than women. It is who they are. Some more than others. His self esteem may be, for right now, shot. I thinks he needs some scripture reading to figure out that that is not all life is about. If he's worrying how he's going to get by or eat, show him Matt 6:25
Honestly, it is possible that his severence package is giving him time to change his life, maybe relocate, and he might be thinking about a new life without you. Has he mentioned moving or doing anything out of the ordinary?
On the other hand, his pending unemployment may have wounded his pride and seeing you or talking about it reminds him of his unstability and he fears not being able to provide for himself and his mate - men are primal like that.
I do think men value their career/job more than women. It is who they are. Some more than others. His self esteem may be, for right now, shot. I thinks he needs some scripture reading to figure out that that is not all life is about. If he's worrying how he's going to get by or eat, show him Matt 6:25
What an antiquated notion! Yuck.
he does sound depressed to me as well. You should try and do all you can for him, but you can only put yourself out there for so long.
Why is it females are always looked to support the male ego? My hubby learned the hard way if he will not talk to me, others will. Just be glad you are not married. Time to look around.
Dump him. So he'll lose his job in February. He'll be paid for 8 months more. Plenty of time to reorganize. He doesn't want to talk to you becuase he's planning to head off to greener pastures after a nice vacation. And he isn't making you part of the plan. Dump him.
Dump him. So he'll lose his job in February. He'll be paid for 8 months more. Plenty of time to reorganize. He doesn't want to talk to you becuase he's planning to head off to greener pastures after a nice vacation. And he isn't making you part of the plan. Dump him.
Dump him. So he'll lose his job in February. He'll be paid for 8 months more. Plenty of time to reorganize. He doesn't want to talk to you becuase he's planning to head off to greener pastures after a nice vacation. And he isn't making you part of the plan. Dump him.
I agree to some extent, but don't write him off just yet..give him some time.
I've been in a situation like his before (Im a guy).. and I was in a slump for awhile.. .and sometimes I just don't wanna talk to anyone.
I agree to some extent, but don't write him off just yet..give him some time.
I've been in a situation like his before (Im a guy).. and I was in a slump for awhile.. .and sometimes I just don't wanna talk to anyone.
Too much "I". If someone can not be a "we", they can be an "I" alone.
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