The best and worst cities for interracial dating and relationships in Texas

[ragnarkar]

Originally Posted by RJ312

Indian male-white female is a semi-unusual combination. Probably even less common than white male-Indian female, which I don't think is all that common.

There are Indian male engineers that I know who primarily approached white women at the bars in Uptown Dallas, but the white women wouldn't give the Indian males the time of night.



That's exactly the case. In the big Texas cities, no one really cares about it.

I'm a white male. I am primarily attracted to white women and Hispanic women. I speak Spanish, so that certainly helps my cause with Hispanic women. I have found it easier to have sustainable relationships with white women.

I don't see any in Midland, except Hispanic-White.

Also, I've seen plenty of Indian men with white women in all places but I've rarely actually seen a white woman take on her Indian husband's last name.. is this common or not? I've met a few white women with Chinese last names which means they probably took on their Chinese husband's last names.

[tcualum]

When my husband and I got married I was originally planning to take his last name. My husband though thought that as strange since the naming convention was different where he was from in India and women didn't take their husband's last name. At the time he had a work visa but no green card. Our plan was to get him a green card and citizenship through our marriage. We hired an immigration lawyer before we got married. She recommended that I keep my last name until he received his citizenship so that all of the paperwork with my name on it was consistent. That happened years later. In the intervening time I discovered that having a different last name from my husband and later our son didn't cause any confusion or issues. Once the lawyer told me that I could change my name I changed my name on a credit card. It was such a pain in the neck that I decided not to bother with changing my last name.

[ragnarkar]

Originally Posted by tcualum

When my husband and I got married I was originally planning to take his last name. My husband though thought that as strange since the naming convention was different where he was from in India and women didn't take their husband's last name. At the time he had a work visa but no green card. Our plan was to get him a green card and citizenship through our marriage. We hired an immigration lawyer before we got married. She recommended that I keep my last name until he received his citizenship so that all of the paperwork with my name on it was consistent. That happened years later. In the intervening time I discovered that having a different last name from my husband and later our son didn't cause any confusion or issues. Once the lawyer told me that I could change my name I changed my name on a credit card. It was such a pain in the neck that I decided not to bother with changing my last name.

My wife wanted to keep her last name (because she was well known in the scientific community and it would cause confusion if she changed the name she published with from that point on.) Personally, I could care less either way and people still refer to her, socially, as Mrs. <my last name> and we're both fine with that.

[stephwin]

Originally Posted by tcualum

My husband is Indian and I am white. We haven't had any problems and neither have our kids.

Same here, although my husband is Vietnamese. My kids look white, though, and you wouldn't know they were mixed unless you saw all of us together or knew their last name.

The only time I've felt a little uncomfortable was when we would visit Asian grocery stores. We got a few curious stares and I'm sure some people said something about it, but my husband's Vietnamese is really poor and I don't speak it at all.

[tcualum]

It's unclear when you look at my kids what their ethnicity is. When my youngest was a baby I got tired of the nosy questions from strangers regarding his ethnicity. Many I suspect thought he was adopted.