Cities with better dating scene for non-flighty thirtysomethings

[EclecticEars]

Dating sucks for men in the Bay Area. The women can be quite b*#(*y--and not much better than some of the women that we have down here in OC/LA.

Believe it or not, however, SoCal might be a little better for meeting potential mates than the Bay Area. People in the Bay Area can be, like has been said, friendly enough but elusive, or very reserved to the point of being aloof and icy. SoCal does have a lot more superficiality, but interestingly enough to me that makes it easier to tune the "radar" and separate the people you want to associate with from the people you don't want to associate with.

I can't look at it from a woman's perspective, but if you're a man, don't attempt dating in the Bay Area unless you have some serious $$$, are part of 17 liberal causes, or preferably both.

I miss a lot of things about the Bay Area and would live in certain parts of it again. However, I said this when I moved to the Bay originally and I'm still sticking by my statement: I could live there for no more than a few years (8, 10 maybe) because of the challenging social climate there. Again, it's a little easier in my experience to meet people in general in parts of LA/OC and especially SD.

[cafecita]

I am definitely not a bitchy woman. Why just today I was walking the streets of Fresno (here for a med internship) and I smiled at a guy who struck up a conversation with me and said, "Are you from San Fran? You have that look about you." Well, now I'm not sure if I should take that as a compliment or not! Ha. I think just like another poster said earlier, in a city there are a lot of different people and if you're looking in the right places, you're bound to meet someone who is likeminded. It's weird though because online, I've been messaged by decent guys in other cities but not San Fran. Still, I think I'm willing to make the leap and make sure that I get involved in activities there that interest me. I'm not looking for a guy who makes bucco bucks but I have worked hard to be financially stable and you bet I'm looking for someone else who has done the same.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by EclecticEars

Dating sucks for men in the Bay Area. The women can be quite b*#(*y--and not much better than some of the women that we have down here in OC/LA.

Believe it or not, however, SoCal might be a little better for meeting potential mates than the Bay Area. People in the Bay Area can be, like has been said, friendly enough but elusive, or very reserved to the point of being aloof and icy. SoCal does have a lot more superficiality, but interestingly enough to me that makes it easier to tune the "radar" and separate the people you want to associate with from the people you don't want to associate with.

I can't look at it from a woman's perspective, but if you're a man, don't attempt dating in the Bay Area unless you have some serious $$$, are part of 17 liberal causes, or preferably both.

I miss a lot of things about the Bay Area and would live in certain parts of it again. However, I said this when I moved to the Bay originally and I'm still sticking by my statement: I could live there for no more than a few years (8, 10 maybe) because of the challenging social climate there. Again, it's a little easier in my experience to meet people in general in parts of LA/OC and especially SD.

I know quite a few women in the Bay Area who aren't aloof, b***y, or reserved, and aren't looking for a guy with a lot of money, because the women make their own money. I don't know why this old stereotype of women looking for wealthy men doesn't die. Women create their own wealth these days. It's not the 1950's anymore.

Anyway, these erroneous beliefs unfairly bash Bay Area women. Just because there are a few women like that doesn't mean they're all like that.