"Neighbors" in Mechanicsville subdivision have party without inviting next door! (sale, house)

[stan the man]

So is it normal for people in the Mechanicsville subdivisions to not invite their next door neighbors to house parties?

My wife and I are the same age as them, our kids are the same age too. We've always been VERY nice and courteous to them.

We moved here about 2 years ago.. it is a middle class subdivision.. our next door neighbors have had two large house parties and not invited us to either one. This is VERY RUDE!!! And un-neighborly. In fact, not inviting your next door neighbors to big parties is a way to create negative tension instead of friendships. I guess they do not care because they are local natives.. and UH, OH! We are not FROM Virginia! Yikes! Maybe this is why they snubbed us. Either way, they are horribly rude. I wonder if this is how most of Mechanicsville is. Very smug attitudes? Like "if yall aren't from around here, we really don't need any new friends so we just won't invite yall to our party."

And yes, I am talking about full grown adults. So far it is a shame.

[Pruzhany]

Originally Posted by stan the man

So is it normal for people in the Mechanicsville subdivisions to not invite their next door neighbors to house parties?

Yes and numerous other counties.

[AJNEOA]

Originally Posted by stan the man

So is it normal for people in the Mechanicsville subdivisions to not invite their next door neighbors to house parties?

My wife and I are the same age as them, our kids are the same age too. We've always been VERY nice and courteous to them.

We moved here about 2 years ago.. it is a middle class subdivision.. our next door neighbors have had two large house parties and not invited us to either one. This is VERY RUDE!!! And un-neighborly. In fact, not inviting your next door neighbors to big parties is a way to create negative tension instead of friendships. I guess they do not care because they are local natives.. and UH, OH! We are not FROM Virginia! Yikes! Maybe this is why they snubbed us. Either way, they are horribly rude. I wonder if this is how most of Mechanicsville is. Very smug attitudes? Like "if yall aren't from around here, we really don't need any new friends so we just won't invite yall to our party."

And yes, I am talking about full grown adults. So far it is a shame.

I guess it depends on the party and who they have coming over. I won't invite my neighbors over to a party if it's a big get together with all work friends; same thing with all family (and other circumstances). It's not that I don't like my neighbors, but more because the conversations are premised on things they aren't privy to.

[brocco]

what....i grew up in the mechanicsville burbs and like 90% of our neighbors were from out of state. i think the phenomenon you're describing is happening more often everywhere. people have way worse manners than they used to

[BuiltforSin]

Originally Posted by stan the man

So is it normal for people in the Mechanicsville subdivisions to not invite their next door neighbors to house parties?

My wife and I are the same age as them, our kids are the same age too. We've always been VERY nice and courteous to them.

We moved here about 2 years ago.. it is a middle class subdivision.. our next door neighbors have had two large house parties and not invited us to either one. This is VERY RUDE!!! And un-neighborly. In fact, not inviting your next door neighbors to big parties is a way to create negative tension instead of friendships. I guess they do not care because they are local natives.. and UH, OH! We are not FROM Virginia! Yikes! Maybe this is why they snubbed us. Either way, they are horribly rude. I wonder if this is how most of Mechanicsville is. Very smug attitudes? Like "if yall aren't from around here, we really don't need any new friends so we just won't invite yall to our party."

And yes, I am talking about full grown adults. So far it is a shame.

Honestly, who cares? Why don't you go ask your neighbors instead?

[JanND]

Originally Posted by stan the man

So is it normal for people in the Mechanicsville subdivisions to not invite their next door neighbors to house parties?

My wife and I are the same age as them, our kids are the same age too. We've always been VERY nice and courteous to them.

We moved here about 2 years ago.. it is a middle class subdivision.. our next door neighbors have had two large house parties and not invited us to either one. This is VERY RUDE!!! And un-neighborly. In fact, not inviting your next door neighbors to big parties is a way to create negative tension instead of friendships. I guess they do not care because they are local natives.. and UH, OH! We are not FROM Virginia! Yikes! Maybe this is why they snubbed us. Either way, they are horribly rude. I wonder if this is how most of Mechanicsville is. Very smug attitudes? Like "if yall aren't from around here, we really don't need any new friends so we just won't invite yall to our party."

And yes, I am talking about full grown adults. So far it is a shame.

And, How many times have you invited them to your house parties???? Seems bizarre to complain about people that have other people over. What business is it of yours, seriously.

[ronyusa]

Sorry but I kind of agree with JanND, I mean, of course, it is nice when neighbors get along and invite each other to large house/block parties etc., but for the OP to come to a public forum and complain about neighbor not inviting him to the party makes the OP looks a bit sad!

Some people live in the suburbs for a greater sense of privacy and space and might be under the impression that neighbors may not want to be bothered with invites to private parties and such.

Unless you see each other while working on the lawn ALL the time, frequently exchange in conversations and the families are good friends with each other there is no clear reason for them to bother inviting neighbors to a private party. And IF you are close friends with them and they STILL never invite you to private parties and it bothers you that much then you should really resolve this by casually bringing it up with the neighbor in a non-confrontational way. Either way, complaining about it in a public forum really raises a huge question about your social skills and therefore your eligibility for invites to private parties, neighbors or not!

[SonofDixie]

Sure does sound familiar...

https://www.city-data.com/forum/richm...newcomers.html

[htlong]

I think you have issues, there are more important things to worry bout than why you werent invited. I always tried to side step neighborhood gatherings ,maybe a neighborhood yard sale but I have always thought it better to keep arms distance from neighbors it stops a lot of trivial arguments.

[luv4horses]

When I was younger the only reason we might invite the neighbors to a party was if we thought it might get too noisy. Then the neighbors would be a part of it and not complain <smile>