Friends and Family Dying. (55, dumped, graduated, accidents)

[thinkalot]

Classmates have been dying since I was still in high school.

27 were in my parents generation, parents, aunts, uncles, and their spouses. All dead.

1/4 of my first cousins are dead.

Ex coworkers, neighbors now and before, friends at different times of my life, acquaintances, are dying at about 2 a week.

Just part of getting old.

[Hawk J]

My beloved Dad served in US Army during World War II & The Korean War. He survived both. When he was 44, he was laying on the floor watching tv, had a heart attack & passed on. No one was home.
My beloved cousin was serving in US Army (peacetime). He was 21 year old second lieutenant. He had brain aneurysm & passed on. Both are now resting at San Bruno Military Cemetery.


My dad's dad, beloved grandpa, lived to be 98.

[galaxyhi]

Well, my father's mother died of breast cancer that spread.

My father has had 3 relative s who passed from lung cancer, including his brother, for whom we just had a service the day before Thanksgiving.

My father, on the other hand, is a prostate cancer survivor.

I'm probably doomed to cancer, as there is cancer on my mother's side, most strongly her sister.

But we are all going to pass of something.

[Gerania]

Originally Posted by galaxyhi

Well, my father's mother died of breast cancer that spread.

My father has had 3 relative s who passed from lung cancer, including his brother, for whom we just had a service the day before Thanksgiving.

My father, on the other hand, is a prostate cancer survivor.

I'm probably doomed to cancer, as there is cancer on my mother's side, most strongly her sister.

But we are all going to pass of something.

Some of us aren't talking to each other. My mother-in-law died from that. Third time was a curse.

[chiluvr1228]

My mother passed away this past June so now, at 64, I am the oldest in the family. It was a small Thanksgiving gathering as my mother wasn't there, my niece got divorced so her husband his son weren't there and my younger son & his daughter couldn't come because his daughter was pretty sick. So it was just the six of us.

When I look at my wedding party from 1984, three out of the ten are gone, one only in his 30's. I've lost my father, stepfather, husband, uncles, aunts, in-laws and my mom in the space of 10 years. Naturally my husband and mother were the hardest but I find myself thinking of my dad a lot lately especially since I only recently found out he wasn't my biological father. Life goes on doesn't it - no matter how the deaths effect us. :-(

[TuborgP]

The death of friends and family is for me a keen reminder of my own mortality and need to ........
Still working on finishing the above sentence.

[Serious Conversation]

It has seemed to come in waves for me. Ten to fifteen years ago, most of my great aunts and uncles died. With my remaining grandparents in their mid 80s, another "wave" is likely to come soon

[DaveinMtAiry]

The OP was quite moving, having 2 funerals for friends on the same day is pretty, well I'm not even sure what word to use. It has to be terribly frightening to think of ending up all alone, I have the same fear.

But you mentioned good genes Larry as if it's a curse. Not sure about you but I prefer to live and have others die, even friends you loved. Living a long life has it's challenges but it sure beats the alternative. You should be grateful for good genes, that's about the best gift you can get.

[lauradrops]

Originally Posted by newcomputer

Woke up missing my cousin who passed this year. He was the last one to share memories of our mothers together in our grandmother's kitchen on the holidays.


It is the hardest part for sure.

I can relate to losing the last person to share memories with. My immediate family have all passed within a period of 5 years, I was only 49 when the last one died.

Very strange feeling to have no one who remembers the past but you.

I am sorry for your loss.

[double6's]

Very strange feeling to have no one who remembers the past but you.

^this^...absolutely..I'm 71 and all of my old road dog running buddies have passed on..every one of them..some I knew from our early 20's..immediate family still kicking, so there's that, but are you blessed or cursed when you're that last one out of a lifelong group that you made those memories with?..