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Yeah, he's brought boyfriends and such around (Ive even chased quite a few jerks away from him) and Ive talked to him about how I feel. He understands, but it doesnt stop me from questioning myself you know? I was raised Baptist, and such things in growing up were taboo. So in the back of my mind I question if Im doing things right.
Consider changing religions, or at least look into other denominations. Not all are bigoted against gay people. Think for yourself and look into it.
I totally agree with these two. Just make sure he understands you do not condone his lifestyle, but you are still his friend.
If any friend told me that I'd kick them to the curb! Figuratively speaking, of course.
If she takes that route, the friendship will suffer, and probably end. It's pretty hard to be friends with someone who believes lies about you, believes you "chose a lifestyle", are hell-bound, etc.
Proverbs says, "A friend loveth at all times". One of my closest friends is gay. He's such a sweet guy and he makes me laugh so hard I cry. He and I have discussed at length what the Bible says about the issue but there is just a reason God has put us together as friends. We couldn't be more different from the world's view. He does feel at this point in his life that God does not want him to act on his feelings. He is trying to grow in his walk with God. I feel I am here to encourage him in his walk.
You sound like a good friend, and unconditional love is a great attribute.
My guess is that eventually the relationship will grow more distant the deeper your friend goes into the gay lifestyle, you most likely will not have to do anything but be there for the storms that will inevitably come.
godspeed,
freedom
Oh puh-LEEEZE! "Deeper into the gay lifestyle" and "Inevitable storms"? Maybe the problem is her "Christian Lifestyle" that she was brainwashed into.
Her friend is about to learn a hard lesson in life. Steer clear of the Bible Thumpers and be prepared to lose any that you thought were friends. My experience from way back was that my evangelical Christian "friends" became quite cruel and turned against me.
If any friend told me that I'd kick them to the curb! Figuratively speaking, of course.
If she takes that route, the friendship will suffer, and probably end. It's pretty hard to be friends with someone who believes lies about you, believes you "chose a lifestyle", are hell-bound, etc.
Really, do all of your friends agree with everything about you? It would a lie if she did not make her feelings known, and this should not keep them from being friends.
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Oh puh-LEEEZE! "Deeper into the gay lifestyle" and "Inevitable storms"? Maybe the problem is her "Christian Lifestyle" that she was brainwashed into.
You seem to know quite a bit about the OP, brainwashed?
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Her friend is about to learn a hard lesson in life. Steer clear of the Bible Thumpers and be prepared to lose any that you thought were friends. My experience from way back was that my evangelical Christian "friends" became quite cruel and turned against me.
I think the OP is very considerate of Her friend and most likely won't turn out like your experience.
June, here, just doing a "preventative reminder" as regards how things have gone thus far, and how they have gone in the past. Here's the reminder:
It's a sensitive subject, folks. With that in mind, everyone needs to be respectful of the fact that we have Christian members posting, gay members posting, bisexual members posting, etc., so forth, and so on...
In threads pertaining to any issue involving homosexuality, there are always bound to be disagreements. Big ones. That's a given. June can deal with disagreements. June can deal with givens. But rudeness and/or attacking others (or their beliefs in a rude and attacking manner,) not so much. --Because the Terms of Service says so.
The minute Alpha or I have to start deleting posts for rudeness or attacking, it's over, done, closed. -And infracted. So please:
As a former homosexual gone straight, love the guy. Continue to be his friend. You don't have to agree with the life he's leading, but you can still remain friends and love him. Sounds like he needs a friend like you in his life. I lost all my Christian friends when I came out. I wish they would've hung in there with me. It's when I really needed them the most...even when I'd say I didn't need them, I really did. Love on the guy and show the love of Christ through your actions. You sound like an amazing friend, and one he can't afford to lose.
Great post!
As a Christian, I wholeheartedly agree.
If I were to shun every friend who confided a sin to me, I'd be very lonely.
Consider changing religions, or at least look into other denominations. Not all are bigoted against gay people. Think for yourself and look into it.
Well not all Christians are bigoted against gay people. There are even some atheists who hates gays and lesbians.
I can't believe I'm actually taking up for Christians when I'm a lesbian and an atheist. Maybe my long day has gotten to me.
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He and I have discussed at length what the Bible says about the issue but there is just a reason God has put us together as friends. We couldn't be more different from the world's view. He does feel at this point in his life that God does not want him to act on his feelings. He is trying to grow in his walk with God. I feel I am here to encourage him in his walk.
