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June really hates to admit this, but at the end of the day, from what she has consistently observed over time (professionally and otherwise) it's the
WOMEN
who "wear the pants," call the shots, and more often than not are the real heads of households.
Yes.
They are the ones who possess the emotional strength, the organizational skills, are the best planners, the best decision makers, the ones who intervene the most between children and school, the ones who plan the meals, cook the meals, purchase the groceries, shlepp the kids to the pediatrician, usually are the social planners, the coodinators of the family social life, and are experts at plotting, plannning, and above all, networking!
What makes them so, so, so incredibly good at what they do is the very fact that they know how to do it, while all the time letting their husbands think and feel that they (the men) have the autonomy and "head of household" status. It's not a consciously manipulative thing, (except when necessary) but rather, it's more an innate wisdom, an intuitive knowledge that women possess, along with being an unwritten, unspoken, handed down inter-generational mindset which they have "inherited" by way of observation from their mothers and grandmothers, etc.
Oh, and to you men and fathers out there who are reading this and saying "Yeah right! What the hell does June know? I'm a guy, and I know I am the head of my household!" then June would offer this: Ask yourselves how you react, when your adoring, precious daughters interact/engage with you... Trust me on this one: You empower them without even realizing you are doing so, as they know the moment you walk through the door that they've got you right where they want you. The true possessors of the male heart are the little girls that can look into their father's eyes, and say "Pleeeaaassse Daddy?" Those little girls know the true wisdom of their gender. Those little girls know the true way around any man's hardened, worn out, weary, tired heart. (And wallet, as well!) Those little girls have professed their love and loyalty to their fathers in an unwritten code of ethics that practically rises to the level of the American Constitution, and they have the inherent wisdom and ability to utilize that God given ability. --And why? Because they can. Because their Daddy's would sooner be taken behind enemy lines and tortured by terrorists than have to lose the narcissistic supplies that they receive from their daughters. Because it only takes one smile, one "yes" in order to see the sun rise in their daughter's eyes, and that, my friends, is what makes the world go round...
June really hates to admit this, but at the end of the day, from what she has consistently observed over time (professionally and otherwise) it's the
WOMEN
who "wear the pants," call the shots, and more often than not are the real heads of households.
Yes.
They are the ones who possess the emotional strength, the organizational skills, are the best planners, the best decision makers, the ones who intervene the most between children and school, the ones who plan the meals, cook the meals, purchase the groceries, shlepp the kids to the pediatrician, usually are the social planners, the coodinators of the family social life, and are experts at plotting, plannning, and above all, networking!
What makes them so, so, so incredibly good at what they do is the very fact that they know how to do it, while all the time letting their husbands think and feel that they (the men) have the autonomy and "head of household" status. It's not a consciously manipulative thing, (except when necessary) but rather, it's more an innate wisdom, an intuitive knowledge that women possess, along with being an unwritten, unspoken, handed down inter-generational mindset which they have "inherited" by way of observation from their mothers and grandmothers, etc.
Oh, and to you men and fathers out there who are reading this and saying "Yeah right! What the hell does June know? I'm a guy, and I know I am the head of my household!" then June would offer this: Ask yourselves how you react, when your adoring, precious daughters interact/engage with you... Trust me on this one: You empower them without even realizing you are doing so, as they know the moment you walk through the door that they've got you right where they want you. The true possessors of the male heart are the little girls that can look into their father's eyes, and say "Pleeeaaassse Daddy?" Those little girls know the true wisdom of their gender. Those little girls know the true way around any man's hardened, worn out, weary, tired heart. (And wallet, as well!) Those little girls have professed their love and loyalty to their fathers in an unwritten code of ethics that practically rises to the level of the American Constitution, and they have the inherent wisdom and ability to utilize that God given ability. --And why? Because they can. Because their Daddy's would sooner be taken behind enemy lines and tortured by terrorists than have to lose the narcissistic supplies that they receive from their daughters. Because it only takes one smile, one "yes" in order to see the sun rise in their daughter's eyes, and that, my friends, is what makes the world go round...
And thus begins the journey.
Take gentle "head of household" care.
Not fair! Sometimes I go grocery shopping with my wife!
There are some great posts on this thread! I will just add a few things from the perspective of a Christian marriage that I believe address the relationship a little more accurately.
Ephesians 5:22 "Wives submit to your husbands as to the Lord, for the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church"
This is one of the most misused verses in the Bible! Most people read this to mean that the husband has authority over the wife, and that the wife must obey him. In reality, the original greek work used for "submit" is different than the one used for obedience of children to their parents.
Remember that the analogy made in the Bible is not "as with children and their parents," it is "as Christ is the head of the church." Jesus is the spiritual leader for the church (and Savior, but of course men cannot save). The writer, Paul, knew that in Christian marriages that spiritual matters are not always agreed upon. When it comes to families (their importance and power), someone has to have a final say in determining where God is leading them. In times where a mutual agreement cannot be made, the husband is to make the final decision (but actually it is God's decision) as he is appointed the spiritual leader of the family (by God, not by people). But hold on a minute...
Read the previous verse; Eph:21 "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ." Both husband and wife (and indeed all people) are called to submit to each other within the relationship, in love. In doing so, we also submit to Christ and God.
But read even further, this is what most people never look at with regards to marriage. Eph 5:25 "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her." and verse 28, "In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church - for we are members of his body."
Christ gave up his life for His church (body of believers), and husbands are called to devote themselves fully to their wives in the same way. Jesus cherises and loves His church above himself, and husbands are called to this as well. How can a husband devote even his life to his wife and yet rule over her? He cannot. He must also humble himself before God and share in the mutual submission they are called to. Husbands and wives are called to submit to one another and to God, but with slightly diferent roles.
One more example, go all the way back to Genesis 2. Verse 18: The Lord God said, "It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."
A helper is just that; someone to be a partner, not an inferior or slave. Genesis goes on to say that woman was formed from man, or the same flesh. They are to become one flesh again in marriage.
Sorry for the novel, but I think marriage is a huge deal, one that is taken too lightly and for granted these days.
After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church - for we are members of his body.
Correction, some people don't take good care of themselves because they find helping others more important than taking care of themselves. Unfortunately these people also have a greater chance to completely burn themselves up or becoming stressed and / or depressed.
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Trust me on this one: You empower them without even realizing you are doing so, as they know the moment you walk through the door that they've got you right where they want you. The true possessors of the male heart are the little girls that can look into their father's eyes, and say "Pleeeaaassse Daddy?" Those little girls know the true wisdom of their gender. Those little girls know the true way around any man's hardened, worn out, weary, tired heart. (And wallet, as well!)
