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The OP reminds me of a poem I was forced to read as a sr in high school (teacher was out a lot and each time she had the sub assign us that poem to read and discuss) SparkNotes: Robert Browning’s Poetry: “My Last Duchessâ€
My DH and I have a rule...Look all you like(discreetly) but no touching. We are married not dead! I understand he is a man, and he that I am a woman, neither of us are eunuchs.
Also take a listen to the eighties hit Girls just want to have fun by Cyndi Lauper YouTube - Cyndi Lauper - Girls Just Want To Have Fun
I believe that most men (and women) are smart enough to tell the difference between playful flirting and more overt behavior. They don't need cheat sheets or cutesy abbreviations to assess the situation.
You're the person who posted the "How to tell if she's interested" list, right? The one that included "If she grabs your butt or crotch, that's a definite yes"? Anybody who needs to have that written down is too dense to date.
Never said I was not able to tell the difference; however, many guys can't.
Any man who can't handle a smile from a woman without assuming she wants to jump in bed with him needs to be taken out of the gene pool. I smile and am polite to all men (and women) I meet. None of them seem to assume I want sex.
What if I'm not flirting, just being nice and the man still thinks I'm flirting? Is that my fault too?
Your assumption is incorrect.
I did not tell you not to be nice but I did tell you to be cautious.
Never said I was not able to tell the difference; however, many guys can't.
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Your assumption is incorrect.
I did not tell you not to be nice but I did tell you to be cautious.
TS, your coming off as giving teenage advice to adults. These women have been women all their lives and they know how to handle a man and where to draw the line.
You may be used to dealing with young girls which is where your message seems to be directed. Hate to break the news but it is Ok to do a little flirting with adult men, most men know it's harmless and just add a little brightness to the guys day.
TS, your coming off as giving teenage advice to adults. These women have been women all their lives and they know how to handle a man and where to draw the line.
You may be used to dealing with young girls which is where your message seems to be directed. Hate to break the news but it is Ok to do a little flirting with adult men, most men know it's harmless and just add a little brightness to the guys day.
I know it's cliche but hey, some people mature; others just age. :-)
FYI, I have been dealing with women who have long past this flirty attitude. :-) They simply don't see the need as they are feeling confident and secure about themselves.
Listen, I have been married for almost 39 years and I still look and flirt, etc., with or without my husband. He does the same and we get a kick out of catching the other one. The day I stop all this nonsense is the day that take me kicking and screaming to the grave. Me thinks you need to get a life or contact TV guy and y'all give each other all your list of what is permissible or not. Y'all should be real happy together.
I agree with Thestupid guys and girls should not flirt with another person whenthey are in a relationship. My husband I know there are alot more cute women or men then us. But, we respect each other. The women flirt because its a power control with another women like hey your other half noticed me see what I can do. I dont know if its the same with men. when your in a relationship (no matter what sex) all your flirting should be with that one person. Unless your trying to make your other half upset or just to cause trouble in the other person relationship. I guess we call it NO respect for yourself.
[quote=ladyofnorth;13319178]I agree with Thestupid guys and girls should not flirt with another person whenthey are in a relationship.[quote]
Actually, I don't think you agree. TheStupid says that you (a woman) shouldn't flirt, so you're correct there, but your husband can flirt. TheStupid also says that if your husband tells you that he doesn't flirt or look at other women, or if he tells you that he doesn't want to, he is lying to you.
Listen, I have been married for almost 39 years and I still look and flirt, etc., with or without my husband. He does the same and we get a kick out of catching the other one. The day I stop all this nonsense is the day that take me kicking and screaming to the grave. Me thinks you need to get a life or contact TV guy and y'all give each other all your list of what is permissible or not. Y'all should be real happy together.
Like I said, some people mature; others just age.
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