I love single moms! But only if they're GOOD moms... (how to, man)
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one thing you know about a person divorced with or without kids. they swore b4 god and family they would love someone forever and never leave them and did.
Great post. I can understand those who do not wish to date single moms though. I never dated guys with kids before I got my own. And now that I have my own, guys with no kids are automatically disqualified.
It surprises me that so many men don't want to date single moms. Why is that? Is it because you don't like children, or you think the woman is a loser because she's not with a man, or what?
these threads are always confusing to me because i don't relate to arguments from either side.
for me it is like this: kids are terrifying to begin with. if i'm going to undertake that trecharous voyage to devote my time and resources to another person, it will be with a woman i'm already firmly committed to, and together we will have our own biological kid(s), or adopt if our physiology does not cooperate.
at my age, i feel like i'd be cheating myself out of that potential aspect of my life, if i settled down with a single mom. not to mention, i don't think i could ever get past the feeling that i was some chump, cleaning up another man's mess.
If I grew attached to the child, I'd be a little hesitant to get involved with the mom because what if we don't work out? The child is gonna suffer the most because his/her father may have walked out on them, now the current guy called it quits.....
Spoken like someone who's never dated a single mother before. Well I have and let me tell you, most mothers are EXTREMELY careful about keeping their dating life separate from their child's life. If you even reach the stage where she introduces you to her child, then that means she sees the potential for a long-term future with you. It's not like you're going to be in that child's life after the second or third date. And even after you meet, the mother will be very careful how much time you spend with her child. Why? For the reason you just laid out. She doesn't want her child getting too attached to whoever she's dating unless she's pretty confident this guy is going to be in her life for a long time.
Spoken like someone who's never dated a single mother before. Well I have and let me tell you, most mothers are EXTREMELY careful about keeping their dating life separate from their child's life. If you even reach the stage where she introduces you to her child, then that means she sees the potential for a long-term future with you. It's not like you're going to be in that child's life after the second or third date. And even after you meet, the mother will be very careful how much time you spend with her child. Why? For the reason you just laid out. She doesn't want her child getting too attached to whoever she's dating unless she's pretty confident this guy is going to be in her life for a long time.
most mothers are EXTREMELY careful about keeping their dating life separate from their child's life. If you even reach the stage where she introduces you to her child, then that means she sees the potential for a long-term future with you. It's not like you're going to be in that child's life after the second or third date. And even after you meet, the mother will be very careful how much time you spend with her child. Why? For the reason you just laid out. She doesn't want her child getting too attached to whoever she's dating unless she's pretty confident this guy is going to be in her life for a long time.
Most men don't take this into consideration before clicking up with a single mom. When you're with a single mom, you are essentially put on the backburner because her mindset is looking out for #1, her child and rightfully so.
Most single moms are looking for a father figure for their child. Very few, if any moms are looking for a partner that compliments them in every way. However, if she raises her child(ren) right then I could make an exception
Ummm...ok, I have never put anyone on the back burner, but I do have some time limitations since my son does have school and activities, and I'm not sure where you come up with the fact that most of us are looking for a father figure, my son already has one, I need someone for me not my son. And as far as anyone being on the hook financially for my son, every single one of the men I have dated over the past couple of years not only earned less than I do, they had substantially less than I do, and I own a modest house and car that are paid for and earn what I consider to be modest wages so.....????
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