New Partners son comes to live with him (dating, wife, how to)
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I met a new partner which have been with him for 6 weeks, I have two children that live with me he has 4 that live with his ex wife, Have had a few rocky starts to this relationship, But to the point ex wife does not want youngest 10 yr old son, puts him onto a plane and is now living with his dad I do not no this kid at all only for the last 3 days, Last night he was playing with my 4yr old, when I walkd room my daughter had her pants off about to hope on to him which he was lieing down with his hands down his pant, Now I said WHATS GOING ON HERE!! New partner walks in I tell him then they leave, I ask my daughter what happened she said he told me to take them off but being 4 she did not say to much more, 2hrs later that nite partner comes banging on my door waking me up to talk about it, he started saying his son said my daughter was playing with a toy which vibrates and put it on her body, which that toy is a back massager but as I was real disgusted I just did not want hear anymore i didnt want to hear him talk about my daughter as my daughter knows that she is not to touch that, so I said to talk tomorw which I havnt talked to him yet, I asked my daughter about it in morning she said he put the massage on him and then her privates, Im just disgusted by it I dont no what to do thats my little girl with a boy that was unwanted from his own mother
A few issues to clarify:
You have a man move in with you after having known him for only 6 weeks. Or is it that you've known him longer and he's only just moved in 6 weeks ago?
You have two children with you and he has four who live with his ex-wife.
One of his 'unwanted' children (a 10 year old) moved in with you, you only knew him for 3 days, and later note he was engaged in unsupervised play with your 4 year old.
The play became sexualized.
He knew what, where, and how to work a vibrating back massager.
Your daughter is apparently quite familiar with the back massager, but she 'knows' enough to keep off it.
You were unwilling to talk about this issue 2 hours later (you fell asleep after 'your investigation' with your daughter) and you didn't talk with your partner about this as of this AM.
You wrote this 4 PM today, and there are no updates to provide information that you have spoken with your partner.
Your relationship with your partner has had a number of rocky starts.
Which one of these issues did you want to address first specific to your maturity, values, and morals, or did you just want to find a good therapist in your neighborhood before Child Protective Services comes, as a preventative measure?
Or are you merely a troll? The possibilities are endless, I tell you...
I agree with Kin Atoms. WTH is wrong with you???!!!! That kid was close to molesting your daughter! And you went to sleep and didn't want to talk about it?!
A few issues to clarify:
You have a man move in with you after having known him for only 6 weeks. Or is it that you've known him longer and he's only just moved in 6 weeks ago?
You have two children with you and he has four who live with his ex-wife.
One of his 'unwanted' children (a 10 year old) moved in with you, you only knew him for 3 days, and later note he was engaged in unsupervised play with your 4 year old.
The play became sexualized.
He knew what, where, and how to work a vibrating back massager.
Your daughter is apparently quite familiar with the back massager, but she 'knows' enough to keep off it.
You were unwilling to talk about this issue 2 hours later (you fell asleep after 'your investigation' with your daughter) and you didn't talk with your partner about this as of this AM.
You wrote this 4 PM today, and there are no updates to provide information that you have spoken with your partner.
Your relationship with your partner has had a number of rocky starts.
Which one of these issues did you want to address first specific to your maturity, values, and morals, or did you just want to find a good therapist in your neighborhood before Child Protective Services comes, as a preventative measure?
Or are you merely a troll? The possibilities are endless, I tell you...
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