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Wow, that sounds awful!! I've noticed that some therapists practice it differently, and use technology of one sort or another, rather than the good old-fashioned way of just waving something in front of client's eyes. And you're right, the first session needs to be about getting to know the client. I'm sorry you had that experience. Thanks for sharing. Are you ok now?
I still have PTSD, but I was abused for years, and went through some traumatizing medical procedures. It's not something I expect to be healed overnight. I am doing a LOT better than I was just a year ago, though.
Sometimes the wounded people are the most caring. They tend to have more compassion than your average person, if they've dealt with their issues
"Issues" only are obstacles to a good relationship if they're not dealt with effectively. Unfortunately, too many people don't seek help, and those that do may have a difficult time finding a competent therapist. I've seen people who had horrific childhoods (men, mostly) really dedicate themselves to straightening themselves out, and come out of it transformed for the better. They do go on to have solid, long-lasting relationships. It usually takes 'em a divorce or two to get the message that they need to get help, though.
I agree with this. For example, my current counselor is deaf blind and so I really enjoy being able to talk to someone who just "gets it" without me having to explain what it's like. (I'm blind and was deaf for 2 years.) I also get the sense that part of the reason she is a counselor is because she has her own "history". I used to have a counselor who was adopted herself (I'm adopted). She specialized in pre, peri- and post-adoption therapy. Sometimes I feel like those counselors are the best because they have actually successfully made it through the journey they are trying to help you along in. In a lot of ways I'd rather have someone who's "been there", because they can relate on a personal, emotional level, and not just intellectually. I think we also forget that "mental illness" isn't always a label everyone is branded with for life. Extreme circumstances can drive anyone insane, but that doesn't mean they are always permanently insane. A lot of "insanity" is surmountable, especially when it's a result of trauma and not genetics. In fact, I think someone who doesn't have some sort of psychological reaction to trauma is probably more insane than someone who does. It's normal and natural to become depressed or anxious if some bad thing, or many bad things, have happened to you.
It's normal and natural to become depressed or anxious if some bad thing, or many bad things, have happened to you.
Exactly! And that's what is being pronounced as a "disease" and "cured" with drugs having "suicide" as their main side effect! Thank you. I can get suicidal all on my own!
I've been involved with a sexual abuse and domestic violence abuse victim for 4 years..I love her like there's no tomorrow but 'nothing' I do is right and I've received increasing abuse, criticism and down right cruelty to the point I can take no more. She constantly criticises 'my' personality and never looks at her own..It has totally exhausted me and left me in a very dark place.
I've been involved with a sexual abuse and domestic violence abuse victim for 4 years..I love her like there's no tomorrow but 'nothing' I do is right and I've received increasing abuse, criticism and down right cruelty to the point I can take no more. She constantly criticises 'my' personality and never looks at her own..It has totally exhausted me and left me in a very dark place.
Has she had any good therapy? If not, have you tried suggesting it, gently? It's sad how many people go through life without getting help for their serious issues.
Has she had any good therapy? If not, have you tried suggesting it, gently? It's sad how many people go through life without getting help for their serious issues.
I'm not trying to be a jerk, but do you remember Dr. Ruth on the radio?
Whenever anyone presented her with a "non-mechanical" problem, she always asked, in her mousy German accent, "Have you trrried terapy?"
And it always ended "tank you for calling, bye-bye."
I'm not trying to be a jerk, but do you remember Dr. Ruth on the radio?
Whenever anyone presented her with a "non-mechanical" problem, she always asked, in her mousy German accent, "Have you trrried terapy?"
And it always ended "tank you for calling, bye-bye."
If you can find a good therapist, it works. This is especially important for people carrying around unresolved trauma, which can throw a life permanently off-track if not addressed. That's the sad part. But I think we had a conversation earlier about mental health care professionals, and I think we agree it's a minefield out there. Maybe about 70% of people calling themselves "counselors", etc. are worthless. It means you have to be selective, it could take time to find a good one. But look at it this way. If someone is walking around with a gaping, bleeding wound or a broken bone, shouldn't they get to a doctor?
If you can find a good therapist, it works. This is especially important for people carrying around unresolved trauma, which can throw a life permanently off-track if not addressed. That's the sad part. But I think we had a conversation earlier about mental health care professionals, and I think we agree it's a minefield out there. Maybe about 70% of people calling themselves "counselors", etc. are worthless. It means you have to be selective, it could take time to find a good one. But look at it this way. If someone is walking around with a gaping, bleeding wound or a broken bone, shouldn't they get to a doctor?
I was being sarcastic.
I was only referring to one of the funniest radio personalities of all time, and a true marketing genius at the same time. Whether her advice is any good is beyond the scope of this thread.
People are quick to assign the "damaged goods" label. And while I have no doubt that there are a lot of people out there who have serious issues that should deter you from getting involved with them, I think it's also important to give people a chance before you immediately write them off.
Interesting take. Yesterday I was reading a thread about guys with ED and how women wouldnt be interested in having anything to do with them. Im sure all those poor souls, simply wished for it. DOuble standards make me ill.
I was being sarcastic.
I was only referring to one of the funniest radio personalities of all time, and a true marketing genius at the same time. Whether her advice is any good is beyond the scope of this thread.
Oh, ha, sorry. I never listened to her radio shows, I only saw her once on 60 Minutes. Quite the unique personality.
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Thank you. I can get suicidal all on my own!
