"The Game" - what it really means. (Commentary)

[Hans63]

Regarding the following (post abbreviated):

Originally Posted by revelated

Fourth time:

Commentary. Not my words. Agree with them.

I'm a little unclear on the meaning of this. May I suggest writing in complete sentences? In the meantime, let's try to interpret this.

"Commentary." Perhaps the meaning is, "The text in this post is simply commentary." That's fine, but as opposed to what? As opposed to a question, or a request for commentary? Does it mean you don't want responses?

"Not my words." Perhaps the meaning is, "I am not the original author of the text in this post, it is actually a quote from someone else." If that's the case, it may be a good idea to cite the source.

"Agree with them." Perhaps the meaning is, "I demand of the readers that they agree with the commentary in this text." I don't think that's a reasonable demand, unless being this demanding is a form of asserting Alpha Male status, in which case, it's a nice try.

I'm not out to ruffle anyone's feathers, I just think some clarification would help. I should add, it may be that a lot of stuff the OP said is actually true. But, perhaps because the attitude speaks louder than the assertions, many responses were (understandably) negative. That may be the lesson of this thread. On the other hand, the OP may not care, and this may even be his attempt to (somewhat awkwardly) evolve into an arrogant jerk (no offense). Some gals dig that (or so it is said). Whether or not there are any who dig this particular style of jerkishness is unclear.

In any case, good luck.

[revelated]

Originally Posted by Hans63

Regarding the following (post abbreviated):

I'm a little unclear on the meaning of this. May I suggest writing in complete sentences? In the meantime, let's try to interpret this.

"Commentary." Perhaps the meaning is, "The text in this post is simply commentary." That's fine, but as opposed to what? As opposed to a question, or a request for commentary? Does it mean you don't want responses?

"Not my words." Perhaps the meaning is, "I am not the original author of the text in this post, it is actually a quote from someone else." If that's the case, it may be a good idea to cite the source.

"Agree with them." Perhaps the meaning is, "I demand of the readers that they agree with the commentary in this text." I don't think that's a reasonable demand, unless being this demanding is a form of asserting Alpha Male status, in which case, it's a nice try.

I'm not out to ruffle anyone's feathers, I just think some clarification would help. I should add, it may be that a lot of stuff the OP said is actually true. But, perhaps because the attitude speaks louder than the assertions, many responses were (understandably) negative. That may be the lesson of this thread. On the other hand, the OP may not care, and this may even be his attempt to (somewhat awkwardly) evolve into an arrogant jerk (no offense). Some gals dig that (or so it is said). Whether or not there are any who dig this particular style of jerkishness is unclear.

In any case, good luck.

The easy way to understand what I mean is this.

First, you note the first two words I said: "Fourth time". That seems to imply that, hey, maybe I've said similar things three times prior. Going back through the thread would be the logical next step where you will indeed find that I already clarified it.

It's commentary from a bunch of people in a room discussing this topic amongst other things. The sheer brilliance of what was said impressed me enough that I felt I would elicit other opinions from here. But when I see people start calling names, under the impression that they're my words, I like to make sure they understand.

[Tzaphkiel]

there is something really creepy and shallow and bitter and cynical
about seeing and describing and living the whole process of doing relationship with another human being as a "game"

it reeks of lack of maturity, lack of emotional health, an unwillingness to live life honestly, and an absolute terror of doing feelings with another person because of the emotional vulnerability involved

until and unless a person develops emotionally and intellectually to where they choose to leave the "game" mentality behind for the childish petulance it is, their relationships are going to be miserable.

Good luck

[Tzaphkiel]

Originally Posted by Jefetio

All other things equal, women will select the one who chases them the hardest, who shows the most confidence in the early stages of dating.

no, they don't
i am a female and that is simply not true
a lot of women can't stand a pushy arrogant guy with the behaviors and attitudes described above

it always amuses me and amazes me when an individual man considers himself and expert on what women are "really like" and what women "really want"

if someone believes the post above, it speaks only to that one person's personal experience, and sounds like that person sees life and views life and lives life (including "getting a woman") as very competitive, like running a race to win a prize (the woman being the prize), and it is all about confidence and brute force and being stronger than they other guys

so the post shows a good deal of insight about the person posting it, and very little insight about why women choose the men they choose

[JustJulia]

I'd rep you again if I could, DSR. Your last two posts are spot on!

[Jefetio]

Actually that point was from the horses mouth. There are two qualities that I hear women consistently state attractive in men. Persistence and confidence.

[pigeonhole]

Both DSR and Jefetio have a point.
Let's say Pat like in chessgame.

[Boneheaded]

HAHAHA To assume one knows what all women want is very ignorant. I will say there are a few things one can do to determine what any woman wants given she is open to communicate with you.