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I always try to be considerate and gentlemanly to all people and especially to women, but I am still a bit of a country bumpkin deep inside and I do nto always know what is right
A questions has come up repeatedly recently and I never know which is the polite thing to do.
I work in a large office building in Detroit. When I leave, it is usually dark. Sometimes when I enter the stairwell in the parking garage, a lady happens to enter the stairwell at the same time. I noticed that walking on the stairs right behind a woman seems to make them uncomforatble because it is kind of a scary situation to be in a stairwell in a large parking garage at night in Detroit. I usually just stop and wait and allow a woman to get a flight or two ahead of me before I start down the stairs to give her some space instead of having some creepy guy right behind her. However it usually ends up that she gets to the door at the bottom and holds it open for me.
Somple question for ladies is it more polite for me to walk behind her so that I cna get the door, or to wait at the top for a bit to give her some space so that I am not right behind her? Odd questions, but it happens often and it bugs me becuase I do nto want to make someone uncomfortable, but I also feel like I should opeb the door for her and be nearby when the door is opened in case there actually is someone nasty on the other side.
As a woman, I would prefer knowing you waited until I was a comfortable distance up the stairwell rather than being at the door holding it for me...They are probably holding the door as a small gesture of thanks for not coming within their comfort zone...
"Back in the day" it was considered polite for the male to proceed first, especially when ascending the stairwell, but also when descending. This order has the advantage of placing the male at the ready for holding the door open for the female.
This has always made sense to me, but I notice that in recent years many men seem to not have been taught this practice.
If you both work in the same building and get off at the same time, why not introduce yourself and be the gentleman that you are by walking together? A great friendship may
come of this over the next year.
How many times do you see this lady a week? By now you two should be on a certain level of comfort with each other.
Not the same lady
Different ones
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it was considered polite for the male to proceed first, especially when ascending the stairwell, but also when descending. This order has the advantage of placing the male at the ready for holding the door open for the female.
