I feel awful, just awful (and cheap) (dating, men, love)

[Lior Arel]

Well, I met this guy one night at a local pub and thought he was just the cutest thing ever. We chatted and shared a couple of kisses, but I neglected to offer my number or get his. I was bummed because I really had a spark with this guy (he's Argentine, in phenominal shape, and a great kisser too).

Anway, I was so happy last night to finally, after 6 weeks, run into him again. We chatted and flirted and he invited me to his house. Yeah, I did it, I slept with him.

I KNEW when he invited me to his house that that was all he wanted. Don't get me wrong, it was FANTASTIC, but not what I want in my life right now. I feel disappointed, cheap, and saddened. I'm not out "looking" for love, but I'm certainly open to the idea, but every guy I meet just wants a "wham, bam, thank you sam" and that's it Is dating and getting to know someone part of a bygone era?

[Hobokenkitchen]

Ach, Angel - if you were looking for a date from a bygone era, you wouldn't have gone home with him for some nookie the second time you met him would you??

If you knew he wasn't looking for something serious, and you're single and available, is haviong a wild passionate thing a bad thing??
I guess in your case it is because you feel bad about it and that sucks. If you know you are going to feel this way, then don't do it again - it sounds like one nighters are not for you.

Honestly though, I see nothing really wrong with it - especially as it was FANTASTIC!!

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Angel and The Dolphin

I KNEW when he invited me to his house that that was all he wanted. Don't get me wrong, it was FANTASTIC, but not what I want in my life right now. I feel disappointed, cheap, and saddened. I'm not out "looking" for love, but I'm certainly open to the idea, but every guy I meet just wants a "wham, bam, thank you sam" and that's it Is dating and getting to know someone part of a bygone era?

And what exactly made you think this morning it was just a one-night stand?

[optiflex]

Originally Posted by Angel and The Dolphin

Well, I met this guy one night at a local pub and thought he was just the cutest thing ever. We chatted and shared a couple of kisses, but I neglected to offer my number or get his. I was bummed because I really had a spark with this guy (he's Argentine, in phenominal shape, and a great kisser too).

Anway, I was so happy last night to finally, after 6 weeks, run into him again. We chatted and flirted and he invited me to his house. Yeah, I did it, I slept with him.

I KNEW when he invited me to his house that that was all he wanted. Don't get me wrong, it was FANTASTIC, but not what I want in my life right now. I feel disappointed, cheap, and saddened. I'm not out "looking" for love, but I'm certainly open to the idea, but every guy I meet just wants a "wham, bam, thank you sam" and that's it Is dating and getting to know someone part of a bygone era?

Ohhh gosh you're human...beat yourself up some more. Let's see you have uncontrollable desires...shame...guilt..and are impatient. Yup last time i checked that's human.

[Lior Arel]

Originally Posted by Hobokenkitchen

Ach, Angel - if you were looking for a date from a bygone era, you wouldn't have gone home with him for some nookie the second time you met him would you??

If you knew he wasn't looking for something serious, and you're single and available, is haviong a wild passionate thing a bad thing??
I guess in your case it is because you feel bad about it and that sucks. If you know you are going to feel this way, then don't do it again - it sounds like one nighters are not for you.

Honestly though, I see nothing really wrong with it - especially as it was FANTASTIC!!

Nothing wrong with it -- I'm just disappointed because I kinda saw more with this guy. Plus, I used to be a "one nighter" kind of guy, but I've outgrown it.

If you knew he wasn't looking for something serious, and you're single and available, is haviong a wild passionate thing a bad thing??

THANK YOU! You put it into perspective for me and I DO feel better now. IOW, I'm more of the "Dang! You should've seen who I went home with last night!"

[onethatsbroken]

I've done that before..... It was dumb on my part because I thought once all that was over....... Then you start the talking hahahaha Sad but true Good luck on that? In the instant you've given up on love; love finds you.. You may have already met your soul mate and never knew it... Keep looking.

[optiflex]

Ohh I forgot, you spent 6 weeks trolling for him, landed him, and now are unsure it's what you wantt in your life right now. You're seemingly confused that YOU were the predator! And after just one night you are ready to dispose of your kill. Yup...human

[Hobokenkitchen]

Originally Posted by Angel and The Dolphin

THANK YOU! You put it into perspective for me and I DO feel better now. IOW, I'm more of the "Dang! You should've seen who I went home with last night!"

That's the spirit!!
How did it end up this morning?? Walk of shame home??

[Lior Arel]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

And what exactly made you think this morning it was just a one-night stand?

Because when he was driving me home he didn't ask me for my number or anything. We chatted a bit and he said, "have a good night" when we got to my place.

Oh well -- I scored with a hot Argentine. It is what it is (and part of me thinks that maybe with men in general that is all there is).

[optiflex]

I reaLLY like your post, "bummed", "so happy" are you ever going to admit tto yourself you wanted him as much as he wanted you, or are you going to try and hold onto "he used you"