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What are the chances a guy on a dating app doesn't want to be physically intimate?
There are a lot of people who aren’t into PDA or really into cuddling. I don’t think it is that unusual.
In the OP’s case, it seems like he wanted to get it on right away. He may have tried saying he wanted something casual, got no hits, and changed to wanting a relationship to get a different pool of women. It’s not at all surprising.
Who knows why they asked, but some people are touchy-feely and some aren't. The question wasn't necessarily about sex. I'm guessing most of the other respondents are not cuddlers.
I'm a guy... I like cuddling too... but of course with those I am very comfortable with... not some random lady. I certainly wouldn't be asking if felt it was overstepping boundaries.
I have one particularly close female friend that we end up cuddling after a night of partying. We both go home to empty beds so sometimes its what we both need... some of the best night's sleep I've had.
My feeling is that if you aren't comfortable with the idea, simply say so and let it go... I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. If he looses interest, probably was looking just to hook up. If he sticks around maybe you should get to know him better.
If this is online dating and the question is from someone you don't know, just reply "yes, love to cuddle, but I don't have sex with men I don't know well"
If he's looking for a no strings quickie, he will fade away and no loss to you.
I started OLD last spring after a 3-year break following a 17-year marriage. I definitely got the cuddle inquiry. I’d say I got it on at least half of the first coffee-type meet-ups I went on. It confused me at first also, but once I spent further time with cuddlers vs. non-cuddlers, I realized “Do you like to cuddle?” was just a way for a guy who was focused primarily on sex to test the waters. If you answer “no”, you probably won’t hear from him again. If you answer “yes”, rest assured there will be a press for sex within the next two dates, and if it doesn’t happen, you won’t hear from him again. No big loss either way.
I should add that this euphemistic tactic knows no generational limit. I’m in my fifties, as were the cuddle pros I was meeting.
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