Need Help Understanding (dating, girls, love, husband)

[Toomuchtoworryabout]

I have been dating this girl for about 6 months now. She lost her husband late last year and I divorced this year. Within of our relationship, we became intimate and she told she has not been with any one in over 3 years. This week, I found out that she had 3 night stands since her husband passed and before she met me. She now changed her statement to " no one has been inside me in 3 years" " you are the first man to give me an orgasm in 3 years" etc.

I never asked her if she had seen someone after her husband passed. She volunteered the information about a couple of guys that she met and she was quick to tell me "nothing happened". Now I'm questioning her integrity a little and I'm thinking that she might have not been truthful and it worries me moving forward.

Am I off here?

Thanks

[picklejuice]

First: How did you come by this information?

Something like that doesn't just come up in normal conversation among normal MATURE adults.

Did you go and ask a bunch of her friends, relatives, what??? That's just odd.

Second: Her response to your information hunt and guestioning sounds flaky at best.

Third: Yes, you should be worried and so should she!

[jsun556]

She was stupid for volunteering information. That's just a can that I don't wish to open so I never ask or tell. Most people feel the same way I would think.

[Toomuchtoworryabout]

No, I did not ask her friends or family. We were just talking about it after sex. Don't remember the specifics if the conversation.

Thanks

[hawaiiancoconut]

3 one night stands in 6months, she hasn't been with anyone for 3years, husband died late last year, nobody penetrated her in 3years; her story is confusing

anyways, just be glad you're sacking her now, and hopefully, you're the only one.

btw: practice safe sex

[Toomuchtoworryabout]

Her definition of not being with anyone is not having intercourse. Oral is ok and does not count since oral is not making love. Does this make any sense? Any girls want chime in?

[zentropa]

Why does her former sex life concern you? It's no one's business but hers and she was unwise to bring it up. Leave it alone.

[Timmyy]

Originally Posted by Toomuchtoworryabout

Her definition of not being with anyone is not having intercourse. Oral is ok and does not count since oral is not making love. Does this make any sense? Any girls want chime in?

I hate that excuse. It is still having sex in some form.

[Checkered24]

Not sure the gory details of her past are really important for the two of you and your future.

However, if you feel she is untrustworthy, then you need to move on.

I personally think your overthinking things, and making a mountain out of a molehill. Maybe this is related to your own past baggage.

[Ruth4Truth]

hmm.... It seems that classifying oral sex as "not sex" is one of those Clintonesque grey areas. She shouldn't have said anything, since the info wasn't solicited. If I were you, I'd make a mental note of it, and file it away in the back of my head, in case some other occasion arises in which she kind of fudges on the truth. If that ever occurs, it would mean she has a pattern of not being fully truthful. But otherwise, I wouldn't consider it a red flag by itself. Maybe a tiny yellow flag, but not a red flag, ..... yet.