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im just looking for advice from people who have been in a similar situation.
Heres my story:
i am 24 years old and i just graduated school and got my A & P license. I am going to be a mechanic in united airlines shortly. As some of you may or may not know its a great career and one of the main perks is being able to fly around the world for free. I have been dating someone who has a 3 year old for 7 months. She is 23 years old. I am in love with both her and her daughter. The daughter is also very attached to me. Here is my predicament.
Recently she left me for two weeks cause things weren't a fairy tale anymore (honeymoon phase ended) we would fight occasionally which we never used to. I am a very big sex person and shes not so i always pushed the issue which also turned her off. Also she was scared that things were getting to serious to quickly when she was the one always looking at apartments and talking about another baby as well. In her mind she decided to run away and leave me. After 2 weeks somehow we ended up back together. Before she left i had no doubts about the situation of her having a child but over those 2 weeks i had so much time to think.
I started to realize the severity of the situation. I will become a instant father when we move in together to a child that is NOT MINE. I will never come first to this girl her daughter always will which proves shes a good mother which is a good thing. Now i also dont know if i can trust the girl that she wont just up and leave again in the future. I am really really lost. I am still so young. I do love the girl and i love the daughter but what if i decide to leave? The daughter will be always asking about me and i feel bad to be honest. In the 2 weeks i was gone my gf told me the daughter always asked about me. I am super lost and i dont know where to head with this whole situation.
Get out now. I am a single mom and I'm telling you to just not go there. Her daughter is a part of the package if you have any doubts it's best to leave now.
Doesn't sound like a good fit. You sound young. She runs away, then tells you how much her daughter was asking about you. The majority of relationships done't last forever so why assume this one will.
"I started to realize the severity of the situation.I will become a instant father when we move in together to a child that is NOT MINE. I will never come firstto this girl her daughter always will which proves shes a good mother which is a good thing. Nowi also dont know if i can trust the girl that she wont just up and leave again in the future. I am really really lost. I am still so young. I do love the girl and i love the daughter but what if i decide to leave? The daughter will be always asking about me and i feel bad to be honest. In the 2 weeks I was gone my gf told me the daughter always asked about me. I am super lost and "
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"I started to realize the severity of the situation.I will become a instant father when we move in together to a child that is NOT MINE. I will never come firstto this girl her daughter always will which proves shes a good mother which is a good thing. Nowi also dont know if i can trust the girl that she wont just up and leave again in the future. I am really really lost. I am still so young. I do love the girl and i love the daughter but what if i decide to leave? The daughter will be always asking about me and i feel bad to be honest. In the 2 weeks I was gone my gf told me the daughter always asked about me. I am super lost and "
Do you really have to ask?
She summed it up nicely. This is why as a rule it is best for childless guys under 27 or so to avoid dating single mothers. I know my statement will p@&/ one member off in particular but it is truth.
So you'll be traveling the world for work...I doubt neither one of you will be faithful.
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