Ever done anything you regret to someone? (sociopaths, how to, marriage)
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I keep hearing people who say "yeah, I used to do x, but that was when I was immature." And that's basically a throw-away line because all it does is vaguely acknowledge you did something that you're not proud of, but who cares? It's like "yeah, I used to drive drunk, but I was immature and I don't do that anymore." On a remorse scale, that's like a 0 or 1.
So with regards to relationships, was there ever a person you did something to or treated a certain way that you now look back on and have actual remorse about? Like if you hurt someone, did you actually apologize? Or is it just that you say to yourself "yeah, that was wrong" and feel that's good enough? It could be to anyone, whether it was someone you dated or someone you were married to or someone who just asked you out or even just a friend. Note: this isn't a "I regret that I didn't ask this person out" thing.
I keep hearing people who say "yeah, I used to do x, but that was when I was immature." And that's basically a throw-away line because all it does is vaguely acknowledge you did something that you're not proud of, but who cares? It's like "yeah, I used to drive drunk, but I was immature and I don't do that anymore." On a remorse scale, that's like a 0 or 1.
So with regards to relationships, was there ever a person you did something to or treated a certain way that you now look back on and have actual remorse about? Like if you hurt someone, did you actually apologize? Or is it just that you say to yourself "yeah, that was wrong" and feel that's good enough? It could be to anyone, whether it was someone you dated or someone you were married to or someone who just asked you out or even just a friend. Note: this isn't a "I regret that I didn't ask this person out" thing.
In terms of romantic relationships, no.
Benefits of being a late bloomer/undesirable. I didn't enter into relationships until after the average age of marriage in the US.
I have rejected one woman, but I don't regret it because it was over a compatibility issue. I also knew how to handle it perfectly because I have been rejected so many times.
Sure - there are things that I feel bad about that I did in my past. And sometimes I don't even realize how much I probably hurt someone until years later. Do I apologize now? No - I think it would be really weird if I did. Most of the people I realize that I probably hurt more than I knew at the time are all happily married or in good relationships - and most of them I'm not in close contact with. I think it would be selfish of me to bring up things that happened years ago. And the fact of the matter is - we all get hurt. It's a part of life. We get hurt, we heal, we move on. I certainly don't need apologies from people in my past that hurt me. I'd like to think that we all learn from our past mistakes and that helps us to become better people in the long run.
I keep hearing people who say "yeah, I used to do x, but that was when I was immature." And that's basically a throw-away line because all it does is vaguely acknowledge you did something that you're not proud of, but who cares? It's like "yeah, I used to drive drunk, but I was immature and I don't do that anymore." On a remorse scale, that's like a 0 or 1.
So with regards to relationships, was there ever a person you did something to or treated a certain way that you now look back on and have actual remorse about? Like if you hurt someone, did you actually apologize? Or is it just that you say to yourself "yeah, that was wrong" and feel that's good enough? It could be to anyone, whether it was someone you dated or someone you were married to or someone who just asked you out or even just a friend. Note: this isn't a "I regret that I didn't ask this person out" thing.
Absolutely. I think most psychologically healthy people have regrets. Only narcissists and sociopaths have no remorse.
Everyone makes mistakes and that's why I believe in second chances.
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