Men: Which is better: An attractive woman hitting on you or you hitting on an attractive woman (successfully)?
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Well, I think most women don't ask men out because it might look desperate, aggressive or suspicious. Why would an attractive woman need to ask a man out? Is she bat-chit crazy? Is she an escort? Is she trying to set him up for one of those robberies that's been happening in Florida? Is she looking for a new meal ticket/victim? Why is she asking you out – a hot woman has never asked you out in your entire life! WTF?
This is absolutely true, on both counts.
Women don't want to look desperate or pushy by asking a guy out. I'll also add that a woman can be afraid of being intrusive by asking out a guy she really likes. I know I am. I don't want to interfere in his life in any way, and I figure if he were interested enough in me, he'd ask me out. So I leave it alone.
And yes, men can be suspicious of attractive women. I see it here on CD often. Many men seem to have love/hate relationships with attractive women, or at least with the idea of attractive women. They want an attractive woman but seem to intrinsically dislike and/or mistrust them at the same time. Some men even seem mildly hostile toward them.
Scenario #1: A fairly attractive, single woman (a 7.5 on a scale of 1 – 10) hits on you by asking you if you'd like to grab a cup of coffee sometime (in this scenario the woman is definitely hitting on you – there's no ambiguity) – you say yes and the two of you eventually start dating.
Scenario #2: You hit on a fairly attractive, single woman (a 7.5 on a scale of 1 – 10) by asking her if she'd like to grab a cup of coffee sometime – she says yes and the two of you eventually start dating.
Is it more appealing to be hit on by an attractive woman or is it more appealing to hit on an attractive woman successfully? We've all heard that men enjoy the chase, therefore, Scenario #2 (guy hitting on the girl/woman) – according to conventional wisdom – should be more appealing to the average guy.
As a woman, I would think that Scenario #2 would be more of an ego boost for a man because he could take most, if not all, of the credit (nonthreatening body language, intelligent conversation, good grooming, good eye contact, not reeking of misogyny and misery, confidence, etc.) for "just going for it because the worst she could say is no and it wouldn't be the first time or the last time a woman said no to you" and successfully landing a fairly attractive woman. What do you think?
#1 is the obvious choice, especially if she is a complete stranger because (for some odd reason even in the 21st century and in a "liberated" western culture) it's taboo for a woman to aggressively hit on a man. So for #1 to happen, you have to assume that you've either got irresistible looks, charisma or probably both.
Scenario #1: A fairly attractive, single woman (a 7.5 on a scale of 1 – 10) hits on you by asking you if you'd like to grab a cup of coffee sometime (in this scenario the woman is definitely hitting on you – there's no ambiguity) – you say yes and the two of you eventually start dating.
Scenario #2: You hit on a fairly attractive, single woman (a 7.5 on a scale of 1 – 10) by asking her if she'd like to grab a cup of coffee sometime – she says yes and the two of you eventually start dating.
Is it more appealing to be hit on by an attractive woman or is it more appealing to hit on an attractive woman successfully? We've all heard that men enjoy the chase, therefore, Scenario #2 (guy hitting on the girl/woman) – according to conventional wisdom – should be more appealing to the average guy.
As a woman, I would think that Scenario #2 would be more of an ego boost for a man because he could take most, if not all, of the credit (nonthreatening body language, intelligent conversation, good grooming, good eye contact, not reeking of misogyny and misery, confidence, etc.) for "just going for it because the worst she could say is no and it wouldn't be the first time or the last time a woman said no to you" and successfully landing a fairly attractive woman. What do you think?
I'm not entirely sure how appealing hitting on a woman would be. It was always the other way around, including with my current girlfriend.
#1 is the obvious choice, especially if she is a complete stranger because (for some odd reason even in the 21st century and in a "liberated" western culture) it's taboo for a woman to aggressively hit on a man. So for #1 to happen, you have to assume that you've either got irresistible looks, charisma or probably both.
I'd say I must have charisma... My looks could use a little improvement, I think.
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