Can not let go of old baggage from previous "bad" relationships (how to, cheated)

[THANKGOODNESSIMFABULOUS]

Any suggestions on how to remove the emotional baggage from past horrible relationships?

I am currently in a great relationship and my SO is a great person who is far beyond more wonderful then anyone that I have ever dated. Unfortunatley everyone else I have ever been with has lied to me, cheated on me, left me for someone else, or just treated my horribly.

Even when things are going good I become emotionally detached and stand offish. I either get angry or sad, always feeling like my SO is to good to be true and waiting for something bad to happen.

I dont want to lose her or push her away. But I dont know how to control the overwhelming saddness, fear or anger that I feel at the worst times through out the day.

Has anyone else gone through this, or currently is and how did you move past the fear of being hurt again?

[TaoistDude]

This may not be something you can work out on your own. Individual or couples counselling may be needed, and you certainly need to talk to her about it regardless.

[findly185]

The more open and honest about it the easier it will be to let it go.

Work through your thought processes and emotions with your current gf. Work through the specifics with a therapist.

[foclampt]

I agree with Taoist, it takes a lot of hard work to move away from trauma reactions to things, your mind has to be retrained. I hate to think of someone else going through the same kind of things I have in that process and messing up good current relationships because of the ghosts of relationships past.