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A woman that served me coffee at the coffee place I used to go to messaged me on a dating site and is trying to set something up, but uh... she's not my type. It would be nice if I got rid of my superficiality and was attracted to her, since she does have a nice personality. How do I do that?
Last edited by TheHurricaneKid; 06-19-2013 at 08:51 PM..
Reason: Needed to clarify some things due to a few posters making some comments
What do you have to lose by meeting in person? I imagine a lot of great matches are missed because you can't be bothered to get out from behind your computer screen to see the actual person, rather than the image of the person.
Well, I don't have an easy answer for this. I think that in some cases, it happens to you. My best answer is to pursue some kind of spirituality and focus more on a person's vibe. Look more at how she carries herself.
That said, you can't expect to be attracted to everyone. I'll say it this way, you can force yourself to be attracted to anyone. You don't get to choose who you are attracted to.
Maybe there is something to her personality that you don't realize is keeping you from being totally attracted.
What do you have to lose by meeting in person? I imagine a lot of great matches are missed because you can't be bothered to get out from behind your computer screen to see the actual person, rather than the image of the person.
Did you read the OP? I've met her before, she was a cashier at the coffee place I went to for a while.
A woman I've seen before messaged me on a dating site and is trying to set something up, but uh... she's not my type. It would be nice if I got rid of my superficiality and was attracted to her, since she does have a nice personality. How do I do that?
You don't know if she is your type or not...digital contact is not very accurate. See her in person and it will define itself.
One of the problems with the digital dating is it makes it too easy for people to be too picky. The entire thing is based on looks and a couple short paragraphs. You said she is nice. So go out with her. What is wrong with you young people these days?
One of the problems with the digital dating is it makes it too easy for people to be too picky. The entire thing is based on looks and a couple short paragraphs. You go fishing on these dating sites, get ignored and feel like crap, you make a contact that stiffs you, you feel like crap. Get out and circulate. The love of your life may just be that cashier at WalMart. Teach yourself how to engage in idle chit chat with a lady you don;t know, And SMILE at her when you see a gal. Personality will get you a long way.
A woman that served me coffee at the coffee place I used to go to messaged me on a dating site and is trying to set something up, but uh... she's not my type. It would be nice if I got rid of my superficiality and was attracted to her, since she does have a nice personality. How do I do that?
LOL! Kid, are you stressed? You're kinda impatient. Maybe you should take a break from fretting about dating, and go get a massage. They can do wonders for your spirits.
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I'm sorry, I can't seem to find that part in the OP.
