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I've done it a couple of times. They ended badly. I won't do it again. I accept my role it in. I knew how to pick 'em. But as a matter of security, the next man I live with will be my husband.
If you can't share the bathroom? Don't even bother.
Some of the guys I know who are married have a piece of the bathroom and they sometimes have to share that fraction.
Don't even talk about the bedroom, nor the diningroom, livingroom or kitchen. They all belong to her. In this case the "whats yours is hers and whats hers is hers" rule may apply here.
The garage is all yours and maybe a chunk of the basement.
If there's a storage in the apartment? Get it before she does.
Lived with my late husband for 8 years before we got married. I never had any real desire to get married, but once we did I really liked it.... it was strange, nothing changed, but something did. Maybe it was just my outlook.
Moving in with my late husband was no problem, we had nothing. I'm recently moved in with my new husband (his house), and it's a headache, I'm sure for the both of us. He has a house filled with things, I have most of the stuff from my sold house. Integrating is a little difficult - no big fights or anything.
I am very much in favor of living together before marriage. I would rather find out it is un-doable <(is that correct?!) before vows than after. I view marriage as "til death do us part" and I don't want to be miserable for that long.
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I think of living with someone as the next step in a relationship before marriage or long term commitment - if that's what you are seeking out of life. So sometimes it leads to marriage and sometimes you realize you aren't right together. I guess I don't have such a negative view on it. If it doesn't work out - you move on. For me, it did work out.
Agreed. Although, for me, it didn't work out, sadly. I still don't have a negative view of cohabitation, though. I think it's an important step that is smart to take if you are interested in deepening a relationship incrementally.
My brother (recently out of a marriage of ONE YEAR) insists that if they had lived together prior to marriage, he would never have married her. And all the drama and all the people who were hurt...that would have never happened.
I don't know. I think he (they, really) gave up too soon. But there you have it. It was the reality of life together on a day-to-day basis that didn't work for them. So maybe it's true. I did try to point out to him that statistically he was off base, but the reality was a broken marriage.
I lived with one s/o. It went well for the most part. Lived together for about 2-3 years.
It had great benefits. We both enjoyed cooking. We shared that duty.
She liked cleaning. Worked for me.
The day to day life was great.
The relationship didnt work out though.
I think moving forward, I will not marry a woman that I didn't live with first.
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