can you LEARN to love somebody whom you are not physically attracted to? (date, women)
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Okay, so I met up with a gentleman for a casual date today. I met him on match.com. The date is okay, it last about 1 hour.
Well,. I know I am going to receive a lot of harsh critisms, but oh what the hell. The problem is that I don't find him to be physically attractive.
First of all, I am about 2 inches taller than him. Secondly, he has slight bad breath.
My question is that have you dated somebody you are not physically attracted to? Do you normally give them second chance? Can you learn to love them in the future?
there's a difference between loving someone and "being in love" with them. you can do the former, but not the latter, with someone you're not physically attracted to.
I could never fall in love with someone whom I was not physically attracted to. In saying that however, there have been men who have become more attractive to me due to their personality.
This is something that would be more difficult for guys, but it's possible to fall for someone over a period of time, based on either there personality, or if they have similar interests and hobbies.
I sort of did a thread like this a while back. My answer is NO ... 98 times out of 100.
I don't like self help books, but I once walked into B&N and there was one of those round tables with on sale books. On the table was a Barbara DeAngelis book, of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" fame. The thought that the schlocky couple of Gray-DeAngelis (you should read their "interesting" backgrounds on Wiki, not to mention their many divorces) making beaucoup bucks on their garbage is sad. At any rate, the book was called "Are You the One for Me?" I picked it up and it magically opened to a page. On that page, someone asked the question 'You know, I met this chick, we really get along, we complete each other's sentences, and we have so much in common, but I'm just not that attracted to her. Should I go forward?' She said 'No.' You don't need to buy her book to know the common sense answer to that conundrum.
I dated a girl once that I wasn't very attracted to physically.. because she was nice. She was nice and everything, but she had her faults just like any other women. No one is perfect, not the ugly ones and not the pretty ones. I found myself always looking for someone a little hotter.
I'd never date someone who I felt was below my standards in looks anymore. I feel much better when I'm walking around with a pretty girl. Sue me
there's a difference between loving someone and "being in love" with them. you can do the former, but not the latter, with someone you're not physically attracted to.
I have to say that all your responses make me feel a whole lot better. Thank you all.
I have mixed feelings about this. In a way, I don't have any desires of getting to know this gentleman better, even though he had quite a few things to say. He has a lot of interests, is quite successful in his career field. I tried to remember what my mom said, "After you reach certain age, all men look the same." I don't think I can get pass the physical attraction thing.
I mean he does not have to be hot, but he has to be cute in my eyes. This guy I am sure is cute in other women's eyes, but he is too short for me, he is 5 7 with shoes on I am 5 9, in addition to this, that bad breath thing is a little bit of a turn off to me too.
He thought we had great connection, that is what he said at the end of the conversation. I feel kind of bad about the whole thing.
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