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I know that there are several threads about whether you would date a transgender person, and whether a transgender person should be able to compete in beauty pageants or take steps to express their desired gender and so on. But this thread is about people who have dated or are currently dating someone who identifies as transgendered. If this is you, I just have a few questions.
1) Is the person you're dating pre-operative or post-operative? (Or were they pre- or post-op at the time you dated?)
2) Are they fully transsexual--FTM/MTF, or do they identify with a non-binary gender?
3) How do you deal with their gender in the public arena? Are they/were they out as trans, or not?
4) How about during intimacy? How do you deal with the issues around sex and gender during more intimate moments?
I would also love to hear from you if you're transgender yourself and date others, whether cis (not trans) or trans. If you could answer the above questions from your perspective, that would be great.
I'm not creating this thread to debate whether being trans is "right" or "wrong" or for people who don't understand trans issues to speculate on what they would do. I'm looking for folks who can answer from a place of experience. Thanks so much!
Well, I'm not transgender and I've never dated anyone transgender but one of my best friends is transgender and we've talked about almost all of that stuff. So even though I'm not speaking from personal experience -
1)He had his chest done and he had a hysterectomy but he is still has lady parts down there. That's a really expensive procedure and it doesn't seem like it's really worth it yet.
2)He identifies as a man.
3)He prefers for people to know him as a man and not know that he is transgender. I have another friend who is comfortable with people knowing he is transgender but my best friend is not. It's strictly on a need to know basis.
4)He hasn't had any problems with this. He is actually getting married to a woman. Most of the women he has dated have been lesbians or bisexual. He dated one guy who was "straight" but later came out.
Well, I'm not transgender and I've never dated anyone transgender but one of my best friends is transgender and we've talked about almost all of that stuff. So even though I'm not speaking from personal experience -
1)He had his chest done and he had a hysterectomy but he is still has lady parts down there. That's a really expensive procedure and it doesn't seem like it's really worth it yet.
2)He identifies as a man.
3)He prefers for people to know him as a man and not know that he is transgender. I have another friend who is comfortable with people knowing he is transgender but my best friend is not. It's strictly on a need to know basis.
4)He hasn't had any problems with this. He is actually getting married to a woman. Most of the women he has dated have been lesbians or bisexual. He dated one guy who was "straight" but later came out.
I know that there are several threads about whether you would date a transgender person, and whether a transgender person should be able to compete in beauty pageants or take steps to express their desired gender and so on. But this thread is about people who have dated or are currently dating someone who identifies as transgendered. If this is you, I just have a few questions.
1) Is the person you're dating pre-operative or post-operative? (Or were they pre- or post-op at the time you dated?)
2) Are they fully transsexual--FTM/MTF, or do they identify with a non-binary gender?
3) How do you deal with their gender in the public arena? Are they/were they out as trans, or not?
4) How about during intimacy? How do you deal with the issues around sex and gender during more intimate moments?
I would also love to hear from you if you're transgender yourself and date others, whether cis (not trans) or trans. If you could answer the above questions from your perspective, that would be great.
I'm not creating this thread to debate whether being trans is "right" or "wrong" or for people who don't understand trans issues to speculate on what they would do. I'm looking for folks who can answer from a place of experience. Thanks so much!
Surgery can make it so that a man who converts to a woman can be EXTREMELY attractive. Well more attractive than an average woman. I mean ... I've been fooled before, both on the internet and in person.
Not that it has led to anything. Hell, even transgenders are picky.
agreed, no offense to anyone, but born a man always a man just my opinion
That's how I feel, too. And I told my best friend that before. Not to be mean - but he would often go for straight girls and get heartbroken. I tried to tell him that most super straight people need to be with person who was born the opposite sex. I told him he needed to focus more on lesbians and bisexuals. He's actually dated a couple straight girls but they realized that they were bisexual or lesbian and just hadn't come to terms with it yet. Sexuality can be a tricky thing. Some people are more go with the flow when it comes to sexuality - and some people aren't.
To me Dating a woman that had or having a sex change is like dating a woman born a woman NOPE Wont do it! Same as I cant see 2 men dating even with one having sex change.. Cant see that being any different as being GAY!
IF your attracted to same sex Just admit your GAY! Cripe this is 2012... Get your butt out of the closet! With clothes on please
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No but I did meet my friend, who is a mtf transgendered person, through the internet. Actually when I met her she identified as a lesbian and didn't reveal she was trans. It was only about a whole year later that she revealed she was trans and was actually bi. Believe me, she's one of those whom NOBODY suspects of. That's why she can keep it a secret (which she does except for close friends and um, intimates of course). Being kind of nerdy to start off with probably helped. I was never attracted to her even when I didn't know.
I also know have an online ftm transsexual online. Speaking with them gave me both perspectives. He began therapy/hormones and looks a lot different to how he did two years ago when I met him.
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