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No a heterosexual boy and girl cannot truly be friends. As the OP mentioned, that is not a true friendship since she has the power over him since he is attracted. Only women will say that men and women can be friends because they either are naive about how they string guys along or know fuly well what they're doing and don't really care about his feelings. Guys for the most part aren't mean enough to string along a girl they aren't interested in but its extremely common for women.
In his situation, no. Good luck OP, but I'm afraid to inform you that you are spiraling... also I find the fact that your interest lies solely in 'smashing it' than actually caring about who she is.
The answer to your question however is yes. Men and women can just be friends, it's a combination of like minded individuals that solidifies friendship, not attractiveness. There is a large difference between finding someone physically attractive, and sexually attractive. Some would argue this is not true, but it in fact is. You can think that someone is attractive without trying to get into bed with them.
The OP stands a decent chance at getting lucky, as this girl he describes is playful and there seems to be (from his standpoint) some chemistry. However, the return call on that is much less likely to happen.
(EDIT: You also seem very young, so the chances of you getting into a fist fight for a little nooky is much more likely than both)
In this specific situation that the OP described, I'd say yes, it is impossible. He has an ulterior motive and has feelings for her. He's being friendly, hoping he gets something out of it more than friendship. He's being deceitful, not respectful, and that doesn't make him a friend at all.
Hhhhm not nice from his part. In my case she doesn't want to score anything out of me just as I don't want to score anything out of her. True friendship, no ther motives. I guess this kind of friendship does exist.
I think they can as long as one person isn't harboring a secret attraction for the other.
Congrats, OP. You're in the friend zone! Every man's favorite place. If this woman liked you then she wouldn't have a boyfriend. When you tell her you like her and she doesn't return the feeling, you'll be moved from friend zone to no zone.
I think they can as long as one person isn't harboring a secret attraction for the other.
Congrats, OP. You're in the friend zone! Every man's favorite place. If this woman liked you then she wouldn't have a boyfriend. When you tell her you like her and she doesn't return the feeling, you'll be moved from friend zone to no zone.
The best thing the OP can do is have a sitdown conversation that is forthcoming and truthful. The minute you play games it will be all over. If there is something there in terms of friendship, a mature woman will give you a chance at keeping it just that. If you are both playing games or are immature, you both deserve to reap your just rewards.
Right now, it seems the OP is not interested in friendship.
No a heterosexual boy and girl cannot truly be friends.
Maybe not boys and girls, but adult men and women certainly can.
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Originally Posted by ReblTeen84
Depends on the relationship - I've been friends with one girl since we were in high school. We dated for a couple months and left it at that, long distance didn't work. We still see eachother every few months or so , talk to eachother fairly often, either on facebook or texting. I'm now married, her and my wife talk on their own now and then. Probably helps we've known eachother going on 12 years now. But, proof positive it works, it completely depends on the people.
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Why do you think a lot of relationships and affairs begin in the workplace? That's one reason why women and men can't be close platonic friends
Whatever. I have known my best guy friend longer than I have known my husband, and there is NO sexual attraction between either of us, and we are fine with that. We are like long lost siblings. Funny enough, we kinda look like kin, and my hubby and his wife look like brother and sister, it's TOO funny when we all four go out.
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Is it really that impossible for a man and a woman to be friends?
Is it really that impossible for a man and a woman to be friends? In one of my vacation trips I took a friend with me and we even stayed in the same hotel room (separate beds though). We hanged out for a bit more than a week. She is in good shape, good looking, etc. For the whole trip there was no feeling other than just friendship. Up to today, we are still in touch and see each other quite often, still, no feeling other than just friendship. She’s not the only friend I have like that and she knows I am seeing someone at the moment just like I know she's dating this guy and nothing has changed in our friendship. We're happy for each other .
If that can work for you, fine. I don't think that situation would work for very many people.
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I have known my best guy friend longer than I have known my husband, and there is NO sexual attraction between either of us, and we are fine with that. We are like long lost siblings. Funny enough, we kinda look like kin, and my hubby and his wife look like brother and sister, it's TOO funny when we all four go out.
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