Baby Momma/Daddy or Single Mom/Dad_e-Harmony Update (dating, wife, women)

[valeeighty2]

Hello there, Happy New Year to ya'll May this year bring you fantastic life experiences!!

e_Harmony Update: So, as some of you know, dad gave me the gift of online dating, through e-Harmony. After about 2 moths, I decided it was a waste of my time, and my dad's money. I cancelled the membership, and e-Harmony gave him back a pro-rated refund (after I complaint )

After some thought, I signed up for a couple of free online dating sites, to really get back into the dating scene, no questions, no bs... just me, my pictures and my dry sense of humor

This question came up while conversing with some friends over the weekend: Would you mind dating a guy/girl with kids? I said absolutely, in fact I know I don't want to have any of my own, but if the guy and I connected, why not?

And so the next question was: Would rather date a baby momma/daddy or a single mom/dad?

I said what is the difference? the answer was:

Single parent = The other half of the parenting unit is out of the picture completely.

Baby momma/daddy = the other half of the parenting unit is constantly involved.

I said, I don't know. What say you?

[14Bricks]

I would probably never date a women who had kids.

[valeeighty2]

Originally Posted by 14Bricks

I would probably never date a women who had kids.

Fair enough, care to explain why?

[14Bricks]

Originally Posted by valeeighty2

Fair enough, care to explain why?

1.Not trying to raise somebody elses kids.
2. Having to deal with baby mama/daddy drama.
3. When I do have kids I want me and my wife to have kids together, not her having kids already with somebody else.

[TaoistDude]

Either/or. Depends on how well we connect, and on the dynamics of any involvement of the other parent. Not all are prone to problems and drama, and an active other parent usually provides the custodial parent with some breaks and free time now and then, which can help move a new relationship along. It really depends on the individual situation and what you find you can and can't handle/tolerate.

[DRGirl]

I prefer not to date single dads. I've seen many of my friends and family members having to deal with the baby mama/daddy drama. That's not for me.

[LS Jaun]

Originally Posted by TaoistDude

Either/or. Depends on how well we connect, and on the dynamics of any involvement of the other parent. Not all are prone to problems and drama, and an active other parent usually provides the custodial parent with some breaks and free time now and then, which can help move a new relationship along. It really depends on the individual situation and what you find you can and can't handle/tolerate.

My feelings to a tee. Another persons ex may be a great supporting parent and there may be no real drama other than standard day to day issues. This can also give you insight into your Love interests ability in dealing with an ex: Does she blow up or does she handle it with class?

Originally Posted by DRGirl

I prefer not to date single dads. I've seen many of my friends and family members having to deal with the baby mama/daddy drama. That's not for me.

You must be young. When you get to your 30s the selection of quality mates goes down if your not willing to date people with kids.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by valeeighty2

Hello there, Happy New Year to ya'll May this year bring you fantastic life experiences!!

e_Harmony Update: So, as some of you know, dad gave me the gift of online dating, through e-Harmony. After about 2 moths, I decided it was a waste of my time, and my dad's money. I cancelled the membership, and e-Harmony gave him back a pro-rated refund (after I complaint )

After some thought, I signed up for a couple of free online dating sites, to really get back into the dating scene, no questions, no bs... just me, my pictures and my dry sense of humor

This question came up while conversing with some friends over the weekend: Would you mind dating a guy/girl with kids? I said absolutely, in fact I know I don't want to have any of my own, but if the guy and I connected, why not?

And so the next question was: Would rather date a baby momma/daddy or a single mom/dad?

I said what is the difference? the answer was:

Single parent = The other half of the parenting unit is out of the picture completely.

Baby momma/daddy = the other half of the parenting unit is constantly involved.

I said, I don't know. What say you?

I find the terms baby-momma and baby-daddy to be disturbing and unappealing, and quite disparaging, and mostly used by people whose command of the English language is poor. The fact that you have actually tried to justify its usage is somewhat disheartening to me.

A single parent is one that has a child, and no spouse...period. It's pretty simple.

[Themanwithnoname]

I'd rather the single parent.

One less adult in the relationship.

[srjth]

There is another option that you forgot, and that is -a single parent with an involved other parent and no drama between the two. Believe it or not, it does happen.