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Originally Posted by Checkered24
I agree, communication is key.
We have talked some about space, and I have all the respect in the world for her desire to have some. She expressed an interest in spending some time on occasion with her friends. I told her that is great and to go do it.
I think the problem comes in when she makes those plans, she forcibly includes me. Then, I do not think she gets the benefit of hanging out with her friends, because she is likely not going to be as open about her feelings with me in the room.
I am certainly going to try and talk with her more on the subject. Good advice on how!
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I understand what you're saying about "forcibly" including you, but unless she's a really muscular girl, I suspect you have some weight in the matter too
. So if it's an event you'd rather not attend and you suspect she needs some girl time, there's nothing wrong with you being "busy" and kissing her on the cheek, saying, "Go, honey, and have a great time."
And definitely, talk, talk, talk. It's hard to mesh two different people with non-identical needs into a partnership. It can be done and work beautifully, but it requires lots of communication along the way so you can learn about each other. Just think of her as a new species
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