Men threatened by sexually confident women? (girlfriend, marriages, love, older)
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I am sure this has been done a million times but I’m going to make it a million and 1.
Guys, do you ever feel threatened by women who enjoy sex and aren’t afraid to say so?
Women who enjoy things such as pornography and/or erotica and aren’t afraid to talk about it?
I suppose “threatened” isn’t the word… maybe judgmental is more the word I am looking for.
Let me explain.
The other day I was telling someone (a guy) about a girlfriend of mine who never holds back. I love this about her, she isn’t afraid to say exactly what she wants and what’s on her mind. Somehow though, it never comes across in a trashy way. Explicit, but not trashy. I can also talk openly with her about what I like and want and she shows no judgment towards me. Very SATC I suppose – just 2 mature women discussing sex.
My friend told me he thinks she sounds like “a bit of a slut”. I was so angry and insulted by his judgment of her. How dare he call her such an ugly name when he likes exactly the same things she does?
I'm sure - just like there are women who are put off with very sexually confident men who aren't afraid to tell a woman exactly what he wants and how it must be done. Not all women want men who have laid almost every woman in town, and so it stands to reason that not all men want women who are ultra-experienced.
Yeah I suppose that’s what I’m saying – women who are open about their sexuality and don’t have an immature attitude towards it. A lot of men tend to label them. Why?
I am sure this has been done a million times but I’m going to make it a million and 1.
Guys, do you ever feel threatened by women who enjoy sex and aren’t afraid to say so?
Women who enjoy things such as pornography and/or erotica and aren’t afraid to talk about it?
I suppose “threatened” isn’t the word… maybe judgmental is more the word I am looking for.
Let me explain.
The other day I was telling someone (a guy) about a girlfriend of mine who never holds back. I love this about her, she isn’t afraid to say exactly what she wants and what’s on her mind. Somehow though, it never comes across in a trashy way. Explicit, but not trashy. I can also talk openly with her about what I like and want and she shows no judgment towards me. Very SATC I suppose – just 2 mature women discussing sex.
My friend told me he thinks she sounds like “a bit of a slut”. I was so angry and insulted by his judgment of her. How dare he call her such an ugly name when he likes exactly the same things she does?
First of all... you should have never told your friend about the privacy sexual issues with your GF... but secondly... how lucky both of you are that you can be open and have and get what you need out of the relationship. So many times couples break up because they say..."oh the sex wasn't good"... did you ever tell the other what you wanted or needed??? Women to women always are very open and candid about sex talk... we like to get opinions on things or just "girl talk".. we are open about our feelings to group... nothing different here... but thank your lucky stars that you have someone that can be open... you will have a long and happy relationship and the "He _ _" with the person who called her a ****.... if she was doing this with several men then yes.. but just exclusively with you... like a said... You're a lucky man
First of all... you should have never told your friend about the privacy sexual issues with your GF... but secondly... how lucky both of you are that you can be open and have and get what you need out of the relationship. So many times couples break up because they say..."oh the sex wasn't good"... did you ever tell the other what you wanted or needed??? Women to women always are very open and candid about sex talk... we like to get opinions on things or just "girl talk".. we are open about our feelings to group... nothing different here... but thank your lucky stars that you have someone that can be open... you will have a long and happy relationship and the "He _ _" with the person who called her a ****.... if she was doing this with several men then yes.. but just exclusively with you... like a said... You're a lucky man
No no… I was telling my male FRIEND about my female FRIEND. I am a woman.
Yeah I suppose that’s what I’m saying – women who are open about their sexuality and don’t have an immature attitude towards it. A lot of men tend to label them. Why?
The guys I know like it. Course we're all older than you, so probably a lot have been through marriages where the sex was bad or non-existent. They have a deeper appreciation of any woman who is open and enjoys sex.
I think some guys, in general ones who are insecure, tend to view women who genuinely like sex as slutty. I've seen it here a lot.
I think some guys, in general ones who are insecure, tend to view women who genuinely like sex as slutty. I've seen it here a lot.
I think they find it threatening.
Right?
My friend is 33, but my bf who turns 46 this year has the same attitude! Both older men (older than me anyway) who should know better and have more of an open mind by now.
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