Why is it that bad boys are sooo addicting? (date, boyfriend, women)
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So as I previously posted me and my boyfriend of 3 1/2yrs broke up after finding out a lot of stuff that wasn't appropriate for someone in a relationship to be doing. But now is the dilemma.............
I had a heartbreak over 15yrs ago with my daughter's father and this one recently has done more to me then my daughter's father ever did but I still have strong feelings for him? and even hope that he will grow up and change (even though my heart tells me something different) he is sooooo addicting. I think I actually love him more then my previous ex and am afraid that sooner or later will fall right back into his trap now why is that the bad boys always turn girls on? and we can't get enough of them? is it all the games they play? mind games how I call them?
Why is it that he did me wrong 100 times worse and I feel I love him more then the other? I just don't get it..........
Never had a bad boy.......... but I think that the worse the guy is, the better you feel about yourself. If he was a really good guy then you might look harder at yourself and possibly not like everything you see. I'm working with my kiddo on this one and it's all self esteem. In the end the bad ones make you feel like crap.....or actually the whole time they make you feel like crap. It's only cuz you're settling for less than you deserve. Learn to value yourself more and you will get someone that values you just as much. (ok, that's my Mom speech that I recently gave)
So as I previously posted me and my boyfriend of 3 1/2yrs broke up after finding out a lot of stuff that wasn't appropriate for someone in a relationship to be doing. But now is the dilemma.............
I had a heartbreak over 15yrs ago with my daughter's father and this one recently has done more to me then my daughter's father ever did but I still have strong feelings for him? and even hope that he will grow up and change (even though my heart tells me something different) he is sooooo addicting. I think I actually love him more then my previous ex and am afraid that sooner or later will fall right back into his trap now why is that the bad boys always turn girls on? and we can't get enough of them? is it all the games they play? mind games how I call them?
Why is it that he did me wrong 100 times worse and I feel I love him more then the other? I just don't get it..........
Because maybe you feel unworthy of an intelligent and good male? And so you reject them before they reject you?
Never had a bad boy.......... but I think that the worse the guy is, the better you feel about yourself. If he was a really good guy then you might look harder at yourself and possibly not like everything you see. I'm working with my kiddo on this one and it's all self esteem. In the end the bad ones make you feel like crap.....or actually the whole time they make you feel like crap. It's only cuz you're settling for less than you deserve. Learn to value yourself more and you will get someone that values you just as much. (ok, that's my Mom speech that I recently gave)
Maybe we want what we cant have? Whether its $800 shoes, a Lexus SUV, or men aka bad boys- thats why it is addicting. Just the thought that maybe you can have it, or maybe you got a taste what this guy offers that no other guy offered and it got you hooked.
My job flies me all over the country and the rental cars I get are convertables and SUVs. It gave me a taste of what it was like to have this and I became addicted! I wanted those same cars when I got back home. I think of bad boys the same way. A little taste of the good in the bad makes you want it. Yeah the SUV was a gas guzzler but OMG it felt so good to be in it. Yeah the drop top wrecked my hair but I looked hot driving around town in it.
I am one to admit, I like the chase :-)
My advice is dont put up with less than you deserve. I deserve a car that gives me good gas mileage AND is safe and looks good with me in it lol. You deserve a man that will not break your heart or treat you any less than the fabulous person you are.
Maybe we want what we cant have? Whether its $800 shoes, a Lexus SUV, or men aka bad boys- thats why it is addicting. Just the thought that maybe you can have it, or maybe you got a taste what this guy offers that no other guy offered and it got you hooked.
My job flies me all over the country and the rental cars I get are convertables and SUVs. It gave me a taste of what it was like to have this and I became addicted! I wanted those same cars when I got back home. I think of bad boys the same way. A little taste of the good in the bad makes you want it. Yeah the SUV was a gas guzzler but OMG it felt so good to be in it. Yeah the drop top wrecked my hair but I looked hot driving around town in it.
I am one to admit, I like the chase :-)
My advice is dont put up with less than you deserve. I deserve a car that gives me good gas mileage AND is safe and looks good with me in it lol. You deserve a man that will not break your heart or treat you any less than the fabulous person you are.
I don't find the bad boy representing that you want to do better/have better. (shoes cars etc) I think it's more similar to crack. You might feel good for the moment but you will be destroyed over time and watch life fade on a daily basis. Wanting nice things for yourself usually doesn't go hand in hand with the bad boy type. (sociopath? maybe)
so, ps for the guys that complain nice finishes last? Then quit trying to date the women that feel so bad about themselves that they reject you. It's a two way street. Everyone needs to quit pointing the finger.
You are addicted to drama. You need drama to be entertained/happy. A "nice guy" would bore you and make you unhappy. Just don't make your child suffer as a result of this.
Maybe we want what we cant have? Whether its $800 shoes, a Lexus SUV, or men aka bad boys- thats why it is addicting. Just the thought that maybe you can have it, or maybe you got a taste what this guy offers that no other guy offered and it got you hooked.
My job flies me all over the country and the rental cars I get are convertables and SUVs. It gave me a taste of what it was like to have this and I became addicted! I wanted those same cars when I got back home. I think of bad boys the same way. A little taste of the good in the bad makes you want it. Yeah the SUV was a gas guzzler but OMG it felt so good to be in it. Yeah the drop top wrecked my hair but I looked hot driving around town in it.
I am one to admit, I like the chase :-)
My advice is dont put up with less than you deserve. I deserve a car that gives me good gas mileage AND is safe and looks good with me in it lol. You deserve a man that will not break your heart or treat you any less than the fabulous person you are.
Are you sure that anyone "deserves" anything? It would be nice to have a decent car, it would be nice to have someone who doesn't break your heart, but does anyone actually deserve it? Deserve = entitled.
Some like a challenge or else see/like drama and don't feel worthy of having a good man in their lives.
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So as I previously posted me and my boyfriend of 3 1/2yrs broke up after finding out a lot of stuff that wasn't appropriate for someone in a relationship to be doing. But now is the dilemma.............
