"Well Bless My Heart" vs. "Well Bless Your Heart"

[NYer]

Originally Posted by brimin2

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...OK, sorry for the defense mechanism, I am just tired of these fake women asking me why I do not want to be like them! Besdies everyone knows everything about the personified Miami women is nothing but fake, right down to the leased (not owned!!) Lexus, BMW, Mercedes, and lets not forget the newest trend...every housewife needs a Hummer!! LOL

OK just as long as you know that not every woman in NY or Jersey is fake like that- and the fakes have lots to say to the more natural women in NY-NJ too!
Also, "not for nothing" is a sort of lower class phrase, so while they are dissing you, just remember that where they are from, by merely using the phrase they are branding themselves as tacky, to the more preppy types from back north. I can assure you that it is rare to hear "not for nothing" at a country club (or even just at Talbots or Trader Joe's) up north!!!

[tigerlily]

Originally Posted by jello212

If it's used in 1st or 2nd person (bless my heart or bless your heart), it's usually sincere. If it's used in 3rd person (Bless her heart), look out because someone is about to get insulted.

Thanks. Your explanation clarifies the BMH or BYH comment. A direct "what do you mean by that" won't be necessary.

[kmflan]

Oh my word. Indirectness is definitely not British. I have British relavtives (by marriage) and they most certainly ARE direct. Very. Though they are amzingly polite about it. It's almost comical how polite they are.

[Retail Queen]

Not for nuttin' but...LOL fake blonde hair. My family is from SC, not here, but closer than NJ and she said that all the women down there have huge bleach blonde 80's hair because they are always a few decades behind in the south.

Her words, not mine. I'm from the NE and I color my hair darker than the original, just makes it more shiney. I like it that way. And yes, I have double D's but they are real. I've had my nails done once, for a friend's wedding, and I popped them off right after (I play sports I can't be having plastic nails!) And I've owned all of my vehicles outright, and no one has purchased them for me. And I wouldn't know about being a housewife, as I've worked since I was 14 years old. I wouldn't know about the wife needing a hummer, but perhaps...

But I would never tell someone else what to do with her hair or nails or vehicle or career. hmmm guess this stereotype, like most others on this board is WRONG. But Bless your heart, I guess you just didn't know any better.