What are your main fears?

[Coldjensens]

Failing God or my family.

Wasting time.

stinging insects.

getting poked in the eye. I have a phobia about anything touching my eyes. Lasik is out of the question.

That is all I can think of. Sometimes I have a fear of heights. sometimes it is not there.

[Forever Blue]

(In order of current fear to fear that's a long way off still)

That my dad will pass away before I get married. He's quite old now & I don't see a wedding happening for a while still.

That neither of my parents will ever see me have kids...if I ever have them. I'm their only child so it's not like they're already grandparents.

Will I ever have the great life I've yearned for? Good marriage, maybe a child, nice home, being able to travel, stable/long-lasting job? So far, I'm in my 30s & none of that is showing up yet.

When I get very old, who will take care of me & what will become of me? So far, I'm not married, have no kids, no close friends.

OVERALL, that the years just zoom by & I would not have accomplished much.

[VistaCat]

Oh my...where do I start....

Flying (was in a near miss in 1985 - we lost our landing gear and had to make an emergency landing)
Elevators (highly claustrophobic due to being trapped on that plane for hours)
Having a severe allergic reaction
Choking to death
Being assaulted
Stinging insects (I've never been stung and I'm afraid of a bad reaction)
Blood (I even get woozy when one of my cats has blood taken at the vet's)
Cancer (first husband had a brain tumor and died)
Losing my eyesight (my first husband went blind due to his brain tumor)
Losing my husband (already happened once when I just turned 30)
Getting older (losing my physical and mental abilities and looking old) I just turned 50 and my mortality is staring me in the face.
Being alone in my older years (I have very little family of my own)
Death and what happens afterwards (I don't think anything)

Most of my fears are a result of real-life things that have already happened to me or loved ones. Interestingly enough - the thing most people fear - speaking in public - is something I've done quite often and don't mind.

[Royalite]

Originally Posted by Royalite

Looking at my life and feeling like a failure is my biggest fear.

I don't want to look back on my life and feel like I compromised all of myself for others and didn't pursue my desires. I'm a curious person and I need to follow my heart. If I don't trust myself or my heart and forsake that for others opinions, views, etc, I always regret it. And that's a failure to me.

I initially put this up as my fear...but I think I'm wrong now. I don't carry this fear anymore because I overcame it.

I think my biggest fear tends to be more immediate things like not graduating nursing school as I planned is currently my biggest fear. It's just not being able to fulfill my individual dreams and goals.

[Oleg Bach]

Originally Posted by Cocker_Spaniel_Lover

Dying alone and no one finds me for months....maybe a year later.

Being found dead on the toilet before I had a chance to wipe my butt. Just joking....maybe being found dead in the bath tub and my arrogant son commenting "His penis is smaller that I expected" - as if I would be at my best and most manly as a corpse? Dying alone does not bother me- death to me is very private and I don't want anyone hovering over me as I make peace with my maker.

The other thing that I find repulsive is the idea of an autopsy. I can't stand the thought of some jerk sawing off the top of my head or slopping my in sides on a table and weighing them....embalming also bothers me...I just wish I could bury myself in some nice dark earth in a spot where swallows and sparrows would entertain me for eternity.