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She has a legal right to leave the house whenever she wants.
She has a legal right to have a boyfriend over to the house whenever she wants.
If you don't want her to have those rights, don't let her live with you---and she can have those rights elsewhere.
It's silly when parents try to impose rules on adult children.
You either let them be adults or you let them move. To keep them home and try to treat them like children is ridiculous.
My daughter moved back home two years ago after being in a bad car wreck. After recovering she went back for her masters. She is 25 and she has three jobs while being in school, she can come and go as she pleases.
The only rule I have is that if she does not come home is to call me.
She does have rules though. She has to keep her room clean, her clothes washed, cleanup behind herself after cooking, cleaning the bathroom, etc. But as far as coming and going, she can do what she wants, she's an adult.
As a parents, I've never been able to sleep until my three were back home. I would probably crack under the pressure of not knowing if my daughter was home or not. LOL
That's why I make my daughter call if shes not coming home.
The only rule I have is that if she does not come home is to call me.
She does have rules though. She has to keep her room clean, her clothes washed, cleanup behind herself after cooking, cleaning the bathroom, etc. But as far as coming and going, she can do what she wants, she's an adult.
All my mother asked was for me to be home before sunrise. She was worried about what the neighbors would think if they saw me coming home at 7am. This rule didn't hinder my life. If I needed to get ready for work, I had to be home by 5am to have enough time to shower and dress anyway. If I had clothes with me, I simply didn't come home.
The other rules weren't rules because they were taught to me as a teenager---clean up after yourself and always let me know where you are and who you are with. Letting people know where you are and who you are with is for safety. Even adults should let other adults know this information. If you disappear, SOMEONE needs to be able to give that information to the police.
teenagers and young adults are going to have sex if they want to. theres nothing you can do to stop them. you just have to let them know not to get caught by one of your younger kids cause theyll think its ok to act without consequence like her. shes older, let it be.
My immediate concerns were with your own safety and liability. You are responsible for what happens in your house when she is a legal tenant, which she is as an adult member of the household. If you have her sign a lease before you all move in, you can avoid some of the problems that you anticipate, and you will have the ability to have her move out if things don't go well.
I would also put a deadbolt lock on her interior bedroom door so that if she leaves her exterior door unlocked, no one will be able to use her room to enter your living quarters.
It sounds like the OP doesn't think she would leave it unlocked.
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