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Oh I so agree with this post!! Seriously..... my first born tried some of this mouthing off stuff when he was a teenager...did not bode well for him at ALL. He did make the decision to move out before he was 18...his choice, when he discovered that there were rules that WOULD be followed....when he found out that he COULDN'T make the rules of the house and HE was not the head of the house and never WOULD be. And no, we did NOT support him after he left home, even though he was under 18. It was his choice, they were HIS consequences. Needless to say, I have not had the same issues with my younger 3 children! They know who the heads of this house are....who makes the rules, and that there are consequences for breaking them. Good for you parents out there who set boundaries and keep them.....AND impose consequences for stepping over the line. Because of you, there will be SOME future adults out there who know right from wrong and understand that there are consequences for both!
It was funny what my aunt and uncle did to my cousin. He didn't like their rules about keeping his room relatively tidy and moved out to live with friends. After a few months he wanted to move home because his friends were pigs and he was tired of living with filth, so they let him move back but started charging him the same rent he was having to pay with his friends. He squawked but they reminded him that certainly if he could pay that amount to live in filth, then he could pay that amount for a private room in a nice clean house. So he did.
I just did something similar, but easier. My husband didn't want to deal with the hassle of storing a door someplace, so he put a plastic covered bike chain, cut just right, attached it to the wall, so we padlocked the chain around the doorknob to hold it open. Same result. No privacy. Just locked it open this morning. When she took a shower and asked if she could close it just for a couple of minutes I told her no. "Nobody else is around and I'm sitting here where I can't see into your room. So go for it."
There was NO door slamming in our house. They knew there would be a consequence they would not appreciate. To this day, as grown adults, if they are visiting and a door accidently slams shut they'll call out, "Sorry! Accident!"
My brilliant teen aged son quit school in his Jr year. I told him if he thought he was gonna lay in bed all day while his dad and I were at work he had another thought coming. So, he decided to move in with one of his friends. Friend's mother called and wanted money to help feed him. I asked her if she remembered me calling her and asking her to take him in. No? Then, get both of them off their butts and out to work. But, if he was really hungry I would bring over a loaf of bread and a jar of peanut butter and would meet him at Penney's outlet if he really needed shoes or jeans. That plan did not work long for him. He has since then, gotten his college degree and has been on his own for many years. But, he has never forgotten that little lesson.
Grandson loves to slam doors and huff upstairs. I make him close it several times and walk up and down the steps until he gets it out of his system.
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