18 year old quit school and no job (parents, chores, child)
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My 18 year year old quit school and is to lazy to find a job. He stays up until all hours of the night, sleeps half the day, and will not do his chores in a timely fashion. We have given the usual ultimatums, but to no avail. We told him that starting today, things are going to change. No one can come over, no going out, no computer....until he has started showing some motivation, responsibility, and finds a job. Can anyone me help with suggestions or relevant experiences? Any help will be greatly appreciated.
I actually got the boot when I was 18... I was not working full time and my parents told me that if I was not in school then I need to be working full time...and I choose to just goof off and do nothing...
My dad gave me a time line. If I was not employed full time by such and such date. I was no longer welcome in his home...and don't you know I came home one day to 3 garbage bags of my stuff sitting out on my porch...
So I had to stay with a friend...
Then he told me I had 2 weeks before they took my car (which they were paying for) to find a job..
Lay it on the line. Get a job, or get out. You're not doing him any favors by letting him mooch off you. My kids were told that once they hit 18 they had choices. They could continue to go to school full time, and continue to enjoy the free room and board at mom's house, or they could find a job and start contributing to the household, or they could move out.
Give him a reasonable timeline, perhaps two weeks in which to find a job. If he can't get one in that amount of time, then he's lazy and needs a swift kick in the ass.
I'd suggest trying to come up with some sort of a deal for him to finish school - whereby he can continue to stay with you for free etc. There are alot of options, even schooling via the internet. Then try to get him to go to community college. If you can succeed at getting him to do this he will thank you later...
I'd suggest trying to come up with some sort of a deal for him to finish school - whereby he can continue to stay with you for free etc. There are alot of options, even schooling via the internet. Then try to get him to go to community college. If you can succeed at getting him to do this he will thank you later...
If you do this be sure to stick a clause in the "contract" that states he has to maintain a certain GPA.
I'm basically saying figure out what you can do to get him back to getting a degree. This is imperative above everything else...His future is on the line.
My 18 year year old quit school and is to lazy to find a job. He stays up until all hours of the night, sleeps half the day, and will not do his chores in a timely fashion. We have given the usual ultimatums, but to no avail. We told him that starting today, things are going to change. No one can come over, no going out, no computer....until he has started showing some motivation, responsibility, and finds a job. Can anyone me help with suggestions or relevant experiences? Any help will be greatly appreciated.
Yeah, stop treating him like a child and tell him to move out.
Something tells me you are still doing his laundry for him.
Though I agree with everyone else on here saying he needs to get a job or get out, I immediately thought of something different. Do you think he may be depressed? Not just unmotivated, but clinically depressed? Especially if this came out of nowhere. Just something to think about. But yes, if he's just lazy you have to kick him out. Seriously, he'll thank you for it later.
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