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If you want to pursue it, how about inviting the other boy out to a movie or something like that? You'll get a better idea of the interaction between the kids, and if it really isn't a good match, at least the diversion of a movie will work for a couple of hours.
I agree about the reciprocation. If it's always your kids going over there, the mom is going to feel taken advantage of. I'd text the mom and ask her to ask her son if he wants to come over. If she says no every time, then you'll know the kid is just not interested in your son.
Personally I'd leave it alone. It won't be the only time your son is likely to face this type situation. I certainly would not allow him to go over there again just so he can "see for himself." It subjects him to potential and unneccesary rejection. People say one thing and do another without explaination all the time. This isn't a family member or close friend so, I'd move on!
Ill give inviting them over specifically a try. The kids sort of ran between houses when playing so I never really thought of it. Also, because of our move, most of our toys are packed up so I didn't think of it as much fun. But I will give it a go
A block away my kids met a family of kids we haden't known before (they are just now being able to go off our block when playing). My kids loved to play with the kids and I went over and met the mom. She is 100% " no worries, let them come any time, we love having guests". I got her cell so I could text her. For a while it was ok, once in a while the kids would come home saying the kids werent home or busy. BUt then it became every time the kids came right home. So I started texting ahead of time and it was always "oh so sorry we are doing x".
My son (9 y) started blaming me for saying no, so I let him try a few more times in person. Its been no every time. My gut is that her boys don't want to have him come play. he is a fun kid but has a strong personality and the kids already have a group of friends on their block.
So...what to do. My son won't "get the hint". He just wont. I am thinking of texting the mom and just asking her point blank if the kids aren't welcome. But in a nice way. But then how do you explain that to an 8 and 9 year old?
Then I think I should let him go anytime (with in reason) he asks to go over and maybe someday my son will get the hint. But tonight I let him go and he came home really upset but took it out on everyone around him.
Ugh. Any ideas?
What you see as a "strong personality" others may see as bossy. Have a play date and observe how your son interacts with other children.
Also have you reciprocated by inviting the children over to your house to play? The mom might have felt like you are pushing your kids on her, and taking advantage of her kindness.
I don't think it is worth pursuing further. Get your son busy doing something else...
And maybe unpack his toys !
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