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Well actually, the page was disabled... I had her sisters check from their pages and a friend of mines searched her name ... but the page was enabled as of yesterday. She hasn't posted anything though. I did try to inbox her, doesn't appear that she has read them ...
She'll read them. Be a steady beacon for her.
When I was in Hawaii (for a year) my youngest (20 at the time) was involved with a MUCH older woman (she had kids his age...however her kids were good friends of my son's, but I digress). They were involved in illegal activities, according to some people who know. I was paying for his phone so he could call me but they ditched the phone, disabled fb and, last I heard they went to Mexico. I'm not exaggerating when I say I cried my eyes out nearly every day for about a month or two, mostly because I feared for his safety and even his life. I had no news, text, email, call, fb message from a person I'd spent every possible moment with for nearly 2 decades. I love him more than life itself.
He's doing better and I hear from him, mostly when he's asking for a few dollars. But I will give him the $20 he needs to pay for fix-a-flat and tire repair. I'll order and pay for a pizza delivery. If he was in my home I'd feed him. I never want to alienate him. That was excruciating.
Remember the story of the Prodigal Son. That's a great example of what you're going through. Please consider reading it anew if its been a while. A demonstration of a father's love, true, but it's how we should all love our children. Even teenagers.
When I was in Hawaii (for a year) my youngest (20 at the time) was involved with a MUCH older woman (she had kids his age...however her kids were good friends of my son's, but I digress). They were involved in illegal activities, according to some people who know. I was paying for his phone so he could call me but they ditched the phone, disabled fb and, last I heard they went to Mexico. I'm not exaggerating when I say I cried my eyes out nearly every day for about a month or two, mostly because I feared for his safety and even his life. I had no news, text, email, call, fb message from a person I'd spent every possible moment with for nearly 2 decades. I love him more than life itself.
He's doing better and I hear from him, mostly when he's asking for a few dollars. But I will give him the $20 he needs to pay for fix-a-flat and tire repair. I'll order and pay for a pizza delivery. If he was in my home I'd feed him. I never want to alienate him. That was excruciating.
Remember the story of the Prodigal Son. That's a great example of what you're going through. Please consider reading it anew if its been a while. A demonstration of a father's love, true, but it's how we should all love our children. Even teenagers.
Yes... it is hard to explain the horror one goes through waiting to hear from their child. Not knowing is the worst!!!!
She finally called today and needs $300 to get her car (that I bought) out of the impound. I told her that I needed the money to make my own car payment (it's the truth). Suddenly, she wants to be responsible and complete the CNA classes that she started ... but she needs the car to get to the classes ... I bought the car a year ago for that very reason and since then, sugar has been poured in the tank (I paid for repairs), tags expired, everything expired .... and instead of her doing what she needed to do with the car which was the original plan, she destroyed it. I do agree with the other posters that I need to stop enabling her by bailing her out ... I worried myself sick this weekend and now that the weekend is almost over and she can pick up the car tomorrow .... she calls. Typical.
I told her that I was here and that she didn't have to live how she was living, she can come home at any time ... she said she knew.
I have to say though, I feel a whole lot better knowing that she is okay.
I am definitely going to read the Prodical Son tonight ... I really appreciate you suggesting it and I'm glad to hear that your son is doing okay
It helps to know that I am not alone in dealing with this issue ...
Yes... it is hard to explain the horror one goes through waiting to hear from their child. Not knowing is the worst!!!!
She finally called today and needs $300 to get her car (that I bought) out of the impound. I told her that I needed the money to make my own car payment (it's the truth). Suddenly, she wants to be responsible and complete the CNA classes that she started ... but she needs the car to get to the classes ... I bought the car a year ago for that very reason and since then, sugar has been poured in the tank (I paid for repairs), tags expired, everything expired .... and instead of her doing what she needed to do with the car which was the original plan, she destroyed it. I do agree with the other posters that I need to stop enabling her by bailing her out ... I worried myself sick this weekend and now that the weekend is almost over and she can pick up the car tomorrow .... she calls. Typical.
I told her that I was here and that she didn't have to live how she was living, she can come home at any time ... she said she knew.
I have to say though, I feel a whole lot better knowing that she is okay.
I am definitely going to read the Prodical Son tonight ... I really appreciate you suggesting it and I'm glad to hear that your son is doing okay
It helps to know that I am not alone in dealing with this issue ...
Good news about her completing the CNA classes.
You have made a good start by saying you were unable to help her with getting her car out of impound. How did she figure it out?
If she really wants to complete the classes, can't she take a bus or get a ride with another student? I would not give her money to fix the car since she already destroyed it (or her "friends" did).
She needs to prove she's willing to do what she needs to do to turn her life around before you give her any further assistance. Moral support only!
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I'm not exaggerating when I say I cried my eyes out nearly every day for about a month or two, mostly because I feared for his safety and even his life. I had no news, text, email, call, fb message from a person I'd spent every possible moment with for nearly 2 decades. I love him more than life itself. 
But I will give him the $20 he needs to pay for fix-a-flat and tire repair. I'll order and pay for a pizza delivery. If he was in my home I'd feed him. I never want to alienate him. That was excruciating. 
