Time for a man to man with my son...explosive situation.
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It's just more Shakespearean drama. In the other thread he indicated he is absolutely not going to sit back and take it--the opposite of what he is saying here.
I feel for that poor kid who can't seem to locate a mature adult in his life.
It's just more Shakespearean drama. In the other thread he indicated he is absolutely not going to sit back and take it--the opposite of what he is saying here.
I feel for that poor kid who can't seem to locate a mature adult in his life.
Amen. This whole thing is absurd & makes me oh so grateful for my own & my childrens' boring ass life.
It's just more Shakespearean drama. In the other thread he indicated he is absolutely not going to sit back and take it--the opposite of what he is saying here.
I feel for that poor kid who can't seem to locate a mature adult in his life.
It looks like that is where dad is headed, what a shame.
I feel so bad for his son.
Last edited by Jaded; 07-23-2014 at 01:42 PM..
Reason: Inappropriate remark/ word choice
It's just more Shakespearean drama. In the other thread he indicated he is absolutely not going to sit back and take it--the opposite of what he is saying here.
I feel for that poor kid who can't seem to locate a mature adult in his life.
The take-away here is that having a good lawyer on a retainer is ALWAYS worth the money in a divorce case.
A good lawyer could get the alimony reduced or paused while OP is disabled. I don't care what men's rights advocates say: in most states you can't even GET alimony anymore for more than six months. Women are supposed to work.
Second of all, child support is not 50% of a person's income in any state. So however she got that money, I have no idea, but you needed a lawyer. I couldn't even get 30% of his income for two children still in daycare, and my state is supposed to be extremely pro-woman according to men's rights people. So seriously, OP, if your story is straight, you have been royally screwed.
A lawyer would also inform you about what your ex-wife is doing legally. S/he would inform you that some events you've described here are legally impossible. S/he'd explain what is going to happen and what your options are.
Most importantly, if your son had questions about what is happening with his support legally, you could refer him to the lawyer who would be able to do what everyone here is telling you to do: to explain in relatively simple terms, legally, what has happened, why you are not paying support, and to be objective and look your kid straight in the eye and say, "Your parents do love you, though they're in a tough spot right now, and they're doing their best."
I know you don't have money. I know you aren't expecting a settlement. But you need to contact a legal aid office.
On personal terms just leave the poor kid out of it.
It is stressful for a child, even an adult child to hear divorced parents complain about one another. Even hearing the petty stuff was annoying. All you have to say is "I love you, and due to my injury, sometimes I was unable to be with you, and support you. If you feel short changed I'm sorry for that, but I have always loved you." How your son reacts to the conversation, has nothing to do with his manhood.
You sound rather dramatic. Just be sincere, and to the point when talking to your son. Don't try to get a leg up, by putting down his mother. She is his mother, and his perception of her does not need to be tainted because of his parents failed marriage. If he has questions, answer them without anger or blame.
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