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Teach her that fire is dangerous. Maybe there's a local fire safety class. I remember in elementary school when we took a field trip and went through a simulation of a house on fire.
It is best to teach your children the safety aspects of fire and not shield her from them .
This wisdom prepares a child for the future .
Hiding these thing only creates a curiosity, and ignorance, and will do far more damage later on.
You can't remove matches from your house, that would be asinine.
ORLY? Not a single match in my home. Just an "aim n flame lighter" which would be hard for a 4 yo to light, and I'd keep well controlled if I had a 4yo in the house.
I use it for 3 things - lighting the tiki torches on the patio, lighting the grill (because the ignitor doesn't work) and lighting the occasional birthday candle.
MrBitterness, So in your neighborhood most 4 year olds use drugs?
The OP posted that they had just been to Hawaii and watched the fire twirlers, so the 4 year old was interested in trying that herself. At 4, she didn't know that it was dangerous.
She wanted to twirl matches like the entertainers that she watched. Everyone thinks that's a bad thing because she is 4 years old. However, you said yourself that there were children there who were 12 years old working in the show. Maybe the best way to handle it is to see if your daughter can talk with the performers from the show. They can explain to her that what she sees can actually be dangerous and why. I think she will listen to them because this is her passion of the moment: she wants to be a fire twirler. And there is nothing wrong with wanting to be a fire twirler, but she is too young and could harm herself.
Additionally, if you emphasize that she should not use matches because they are dangerous, then unless you absolutely need them, get rid of them. She will have some resentment and confusion that you can light them when you want to, but she cannot. And you want her not to light them at all for the time being, so why dangle the carrot.
We let our kids practice lighting matches under supervision on their birthday candles or to light campfires as they got older. Ours learned how to be careful early on and also not to do this when there was no adult around.
So in your neighborhood most 4 year olds use drugs?
The OP posted that they had just been to Hawaii and watched the fire twirlers, so the 4 year old was interested in trying that herself. At 4, she didn't know that it was dangerous.
No, of course not. But to say NO 4 year old can't find drugs in the house and use them is naive. Heck, she found the matches that were supposedly out of reach.
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