Neighbor kid using my son's ipad to look at naked pics (games, parents)
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We just moved to the neighborhood and my son, 5, became fast friends with brothers, 4 & 9, who live behind us. I could tell something was off with the 9 year old. He's very rough. He's made my son cry numerous times, and even gave his brother a bloody nose and has a bad temper. They spend a lot of time here. One day we had two families over for a cookout. There were 7 kids ages 5-10, and then here comes the two brothers. We let them stay. After dinner the oldest girl comes down with my son's ipad and says the 9 yr old googled naked women pics and showed all the kids and we found out later, asked the two 5 yr old girls to kiss him while showing them the pics. I confirmed it by looking at the computer history then told him he had to leave. As he was leaving he yells at me, at which point in time I want to do something I'd go to jail for. I texted his dad. I got a I'm sorry this happened, I told him it's inappropriate and grounded him from his computer. My son missed the 4 yr old so I asked for just him to come over. Sure enough the next thing I know the 9 yr old is ringing the doorbell. He proceeds to tell me he didn't do it, blah blah. We say you're not being honest and you are no longer welcome here. I text the dad to ask if we can get together and talk about the situation and all I get is ok sounds good and no follow-up. Now when my son and the 4 yr old are playing, he stands right at our property line and acts out to get attention. I've tried talking to my 5 yr old, he just turned 5, but he doesn't get it. We've set all the parental controls up now on the computers, but I just don't want this kid at my house. How do I handle this situation? I really want my son to still be able to be friends with the younger brother.
Put a security code on the iPad and do not allow the children to have access to it unless you are right there supervising them.
When you child asks if this boy can come over play tell him no and if the boy asks if he can come over and play tell him no.
You do not need to explain why you do not want your child to play with another child, you just have to be the parent and tell them no.
It is unfortunate that the younger children cannot play together but there is no getting around the older child trying to come over with the younger child.
Situations like this is precisely why I don't let my young kids go on the Internet unsupervised. The easiest way to handle it is to take away the iPad and give them things to play with that are age appropriate for 4-5 year olds. The older boy will likely grow bored with that and make friends his own age.
Thank you CSD610. I needed the reminder that I don't have to give a reason to anyone in the situation. We did set up the parental controls on all our computers that night after it happened. Eresh, I'm not going to take my son's ipad away from him as he didn't do anything and shouldn't be punished. My son doesn't even know how to use the internet. His grandparents gave it to him two years ago for Christmas and he's never used it inappropriately. In fact, it's been great for music, kid friendly games and ABC mouse.
You should be able to have only the 4 year old over. The other parents should keep the 9 year old home, and if they don't, just don't allow him to come over. It's your house! "I'm sorry, Tommy, this play date is just for the younger kids." And don't let them play with the ipad when other kids are over.
You should be able to have only the 4 year old over. The other parents should keep the 9 year old home, and if they don't, just don't allow him to come over. It's your house! "I'm sorry, Tommy, this play date is just for the younger kids." And don't let them play with the ipad when other kids are over.
You let that many children in your house and didn't supervise them? Many of those kids are too old to be around your child. Would love to know why five year old has an iPad! Parental control should be on the device to limit internet access.
Set up age appropriate play dates from now on.
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