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In addition to the phone calls...try something where he can see your face (like Skype). That way he can associate your face to your voice. He sounds like he might be person shy (my daughter is like that - talkative on the phone, but not so much face-to-face) and his mom is his security. Please try and remember that he is only 2 - barely more than a baby really. The world in general can be a very scary place for such little people. Keep a smile on your face, keep trying...and don't ever voice any of your frustration to his mother. Very soon he will realize that there are many more people out there and become more adventurous (and more willing to leave the security of mom's arms).
He's also clingy because his mother lets him be clingy and does not encourage him to be independent.
She called us one day and told us that we would have to take off our shoes because my nephew was learning how to crawl and she did not want him to get germs.
He's also clingy because his mother lets him be clingy and does not encourage him to be independent.
He's 2. I'm sure you all still realize that he still feels like a baby to her, right? I look back at pictures at age 2 and I feel he was just a baby. It's not your place to decide what is right independence or dependence or not. You see him four times a year, it's presumptuous to decide that you know better for him than his own mother does. Phone and occasional visits do not mean familiarity to most 2 year olds.
There is always the possibility of course, that she just doesn't feel like bringing him around you because she knows you guys are judging her parenting. I don't know if you have children or not but it's one of the worst feelings in the world, so it's easier to just avoid those family members then dealing with eyeball criticism. She might just not want to be around you guys and is doing 4x a year as a favour.
There is always the possibility of course, that she just doesn't feel like bringing him around you because she knows you guys are judging her parenting. I don't know if you have children or not but it's one of the worst feelings in the world, so it's easier to just avoid those family members then dealing with eyeball criticism. She might just not want to be around you guysand is doing 4x a year as a favour.
We've never judged her parenting, ever.
That's not the problem, She constantly calls her father and talks to him.
We only go 4 times a year because we are busy with work as are they and we live an hour and a half away.
[quote=aliss2;32842611]He's 2. I'm sure you all still realize that he still feels like a baby to her, right? I look back at pictures at age 2 and I feel he was just a baby. It's not your place to decide what is right independence or dependence or not. You see him four times a year, it's presumptuous to decide that you know better for him than his own mother does. Phone and occasional visits do not mean familiarity to most 2 year olds.
He's also clingy because his mother lets him be clingy and does not encourage him to be independent.
This is criticism of her parenting, and if at any point she senses that you believe this, you better believe she will be offended and not encourage more interaction.
Some parents would agree with you - others would argue that he is barely a baby still and independence comes with age. Remember, all children are different - I have an almost 2 year old who behaves in the same manner as your nephew. I have a three year old who could be passed around to any stranger from birth, and tells me to go away because he prefers his grandfather. Children are just like adults - some more sensitive than others - and she feels you are disrespecting that, then she will avoid further interaction.
This is criticism of her parenting, and if at any point she senses that you believe this, you better believe she will be offended and not encourage more interaction.
Some parents would agree with you - others would argue that he is barely a baby still and independence comes with age. Remember, all children are different - I have an almost 2 year old who behaves in the same manner as your nephew. I have a three year old who could be passed around to any stranger from birth, and tells me to go away because he prefers his grandfather. Children are just like adults - some more sensitive than others - and she feels you are disrespecting that, then she will avoid further interaction.
How would she be able to sense this if we never voice our opinion?
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