Do you require your daughter's date to come to the front door of your house?

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by SOON2BNSURPRISE

You have never met your daughters dates then? You don't care who they are with or what they are doing? That amazes me.

I care very much who my sons are with and what they are doing but they don't need to ask my permission to date a girl. They also do not expect to ask the girl's parents. They expect to MEET the girl's parents but not to ask their permission. They are not dating the parents. My sons have had girlfriends where they were invited to have dinner with the family before they were allowed to take the girl out on a date. But even then they did not have to ask the father's permission to date. They just had to meet the parents.

I don't expect that my sons will ask a woman's parents for permission to marry her. After all, by the time they are ready to marry they will be adults and marrying is typically decided between the two marrying parties not their parents.

[Momma_bear]

Originally Posted by SOON2BNSURPRISE

When people talk about having a girl on the same level as the boy what they are really doing is bringing the girl down to the boys level.

What?

[Hopes]

Food for thought: My parents weren't good judges of character when it came to my boyfriends. They always loved the guys who dazzled them with confident personalities and excellent manners. Meanwhile these guys weren't very nice people and they each treated me badly in various ways. My parents hated my boyfriends who seemed awkward losers. Meanwhile these guys were the sweetest people who respected me and treated me well.

It's not like they didn't get to know my boyfriends. They did. I dated these guys for a long time and they were very much a part of family events and dinners. Parents can't ever get to know a boyfriend the way the daughter does. Many people are very good at hiding their true selves until they are away from the spotlight.

I'm glad my parents merely offered their opinions and didn't expect me to listen to them. I wouldn't have listened to them anyway because they raised me to stand up for myself. I can't tell you how many times I rolled my eyes to myself when my mother said, "What happened to so-and-so. He was such a nice guy." No, Mom, he wasn't. She never got over him.

This is why I always trusted my children's judgment to chose their own friends.

[Jaded]

Originally Posted by somebodynew

I don't see why it has nothing to do with the thread. We are talking about the influence parents have raising their children and the attitudes with which they are present in.

This would be a new topic, hence, a new thread. Not this one...

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