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I am glad I came across this forum. When my daughter was about 8 months I had left my daughter home with her father. I had bath and feed her so she was ok for the night. Well I come back about an hour later because I forgot something. Her father had her in the bath with him. He had her siting on his lap. Both were naked. and she was directly on his genital area I found that to be very odd!!! We had a argument and I ended our five year relationship and he went back home 1300 miles away. My daughter is about to be 6 and I had a conversation via phone with her father about it and he swears he meant no harm.
When I sit down, the juncture where my legs meet my torso is the most comfortable place to put a baby. It also happens to be near where my genitalia are. I placed my baby there regardless of what I was wearing. Perhaps the issue is different because he has external genitalia?
If you go to someplace like a beach, there are outside, public, community showers where daughters not only shower with their dads, they shower with strangers.
Why is this suddenly a problem if it's done inside the home?
When I sit down, the juncture where my legs meet my torso is the most comfortable place to put a baby. It also happens to be near where my genitalia are. I placed my baby there regardless of what I was wearing. Perhaps the issue is different because he has external genitalia?
I think the question arose because the baby had already been bathed and fed for the night.
I look forward to taking a bath with my daughter, although I have never thought of showering with my kid. We're not there yet, but doesn't the kid get cold while mom has the water on her? My dh and I don't like showering together for that reason.
I personally don't think nudity is an issue. Our almost 3 year old has seen both me and my wife naked and I didn't think anything of it. In fact he's quite baffled by why my wife has no weenie. At first he had thought it had fallen off. But I'd feel a little uncomfortable showering or bathing naked with him at this point. I'm not really sure why. I don't see any issue with parents doing it if they and the kids are comfortable with it though. Not sure about the dad in the previous post who was bathing naked with his daughter after she'd already been bathed and the wife left. At that point it's not about bathing your child, it would seem he just wanted to be in the bath naked with her. Kind of strange
As the father of 6 and someone that has helped give baths I see showering as not something that the kids want to do. I see it as not very efficient to be in the shower with them. Kids like to take baths. They want to have a little fun in the tub. Part of the bath time for a kid is playing in the water. Take my 9 year old son. He has had maybe 2 or 3 showers in his young life. He does not want water pounding down on him. He prefers a bath. I see his point. I was taking baths till I was probably 10 or 11. I did not like showers at all back then. My son would take a bath a couple times a day if he could.
Our daughter is 6. She loves to take baths. She even has her bath toys, many of them are dolls that she plays with in the water. She does like having someone in the bathroom to talk to many times. As she is getting older though she is requesting her privacy while in the bath and I offer it willingly. She learned to wash her self by the time she was 4 and isn't that the point to helping out in the tub anyway? Kids need to learn to wash themselves. I don't see how getting in the tub with them helps out. I don't plan on being there in the tub with them when they are cleaning themselves. As far as washing her hair, that is something her mom does, although one night our little girl informed me that she did it herself. She needed help brushing it out. (Boys are so much easier in the hair department.)
The other kids are all 12 and older and have found that showers are the way to go. Then again with the younger kids still wanting baths, it is just so much easier to hit the shower and get out.
As for me, I would have thought it strange for anyone to get in the tub or shower with a child. Not that I am thinking any bad ideas of being in the tub or shower with your own kid, it just does not seem like the best way to get the kids clean. If your child is young and needs to have help bathing, I would think that they will also need help drying off, and getting dressed. How do you do that when you are in the same position? Would it not be easier to just be prepaired to help them out? Also, when you have more than one kid it would be much easier to get one bath out of the way and progress to the next bath.
I totally agree one hundred percent on this whole entire post.
Once my boys were around 11 or 12, they did showers.
Bathing them in a tub was easy, I couldn't imagine standing in the shower with my sons only to be both wet and dripping when we all came out, it makes no sense. i can see standing outside the shower, ready to get them with a bath towels, but not stand in the same place....
and while I see nothing wrong going on here, I am not really thrilled about the father standing in the shower (with bathing suit) with his daughters. I don't really like that too much. Sorry.
It's been interesting to see the various responses on this thread. I don't see a problem with it and see it as a part of caregiving. For the guy I mentioned in the OP, he does it because he finds it easier/faster than giving a bath, and the kids enjoy it. I gave him a hard time about the bathing suit, which is due to his own modesty, and he said that he knows his kids will have questions about the differences between males and females, but he doesn't want to be there as an exhibit. That's what led to the conversation about the age where it should stop.
Children should never bathe with parents of the opposite sex. Btw, it's highly unhygienic bathing with another person.
And that would be because?
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