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@OP: I sent you a message about some hotels in the area that only cost $70/night.
I implore you to take me up on that advice and go spend the vacation with your daughter!
She doesn't need to go on that vacation with her daughter. That daughter just received a very special privilege of spending a very nice vacation with her friend's family.
Thanks, everyone. I know I'm being ridiculous, but wanted to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening.
I do find that every triumph my daughter has is poignant, since my own childhood/adolescence was difficult. I'm glad beyond measure that DH and I are giving our children a peaceful, stable upbringing with no drama. I didn't count on how it would make my inner child feel.
Hang in there, Sanderling. Being a mother is fraught with emotions, and menopause does indeed suck.
Thanks, everyone. I know I'm being ridiculous, but wanted to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening.
I do find that every triumph my daughter has is poignant, since my own childhood/adolescence was difficult. I'm glad beyond measure that DH and I are giving our children a peaceful, stable upbringing with no drama. I didn't count on how it would make my inner child feel.
You are entitled to your feelings. Even if you think they are irrational they still exist. This is a good place to let them out.
you have protected and enriched your daughters life - from your own experiences-thats what good parents do
even when the echoes in past, distant winds are painful.
thats how i raised my son- i tried to share in his joy, the opportunities i didnt have, and it was liberating-also keep in mind-you are one of the most influential persons in her life and a role model as a mom- you are setting "norms" as how she will be raising your grandkids.
if you can raise a daughter/son that has much more confidence, than we, ourselves, ever had, thats one heck of a gift you gave her- she can take on the world and hold her head high---damn good job!!
@OP: I sent you a message about some hotels in the area that only cost $70/night.
I implore you to take me up on that advice and go spend the vacation with your daughter!
Thanks for the note, but I agree with the others who said my going down as a tagalong would be a terrible idea. There's a host of practical reasons why it would be impossible but even if there weren't, I'd think it ill-advised. This is her time to spend with her friend and that family, to get away from us for a week. It really would be awful for me to impose myself into this scenario.
I appreciate all the support here. With the passing of days I realize now that hormones had a lot to do with my feelings when I started this thread. I feel better now and am seeing more of the bright side of the situation. Our original summer plans for my daughter can be changed with less hassle than I'd imagined, and our other daughter will benefit from more of our parental attention while G is away.
Terrible idea. She's 14! She doesn't want her mom "intruding" on her vacation with her BFF. That would be weird, trust me.
The BFF's mom is there, so it wouldn't be weird.
It would only be weird, if say, the girls were 19 and all going with their friends, and one mom insisted on going.
In this face, the daughter's parents are the only adults NOT there.
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She doesn't need to go on that vacation with her daughter. That daughter just received a very special privilege of spending a very nice vacation with her friend's family.
