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I think you should listen to your inner voice. She is up to something.
^ I second this. It's so darn obvious, I'm embarrassed for her. She seems to be really stunted in her maturity. She needs to be reminded that she's not 18, and you're not either.
Could be a breakthrough or trying to butter me up but this is it. She woke me up this morning by snuggling up next to me and kissing me on the cheek. She made me breakfast, sat with me while I ate, and told me to have a great day. She hasn't done that in quite some time. She told me we could go wherever I wanted for dinner. We went to dinner and she gave me a back massage. After dinner, she wanted to “ run something past me”. She wanted to reward our son because “ he’s beensuch a good boy( yes, she said boy like he’s 7 and meeting Santa or a dog) lately,I think we should take himand his girlfriend up to Chicago for the weekend as maybe a little treat for him”. I told her “ I’d think about it”, I can’t help but think that secretly this is for her. I think that rewarding a kid who’s SUPPOSE to be good, with a trip is a bit overboard.
Wow, just wow.
Next, she's probably going to say, "Let's reward him by all of us going to Chicago to do X (this activity that I want to do) and Y (this activity that I want to do) and Z (this activity that I want to do) and we can all get manicures and pedicures and have our hair done!"
It sounds like a trick to me (a way to get exactly what she wants but pretend it is really for your son).
She isn’t being very subtle about her intentions. I told her I didn’t think it was really necessary to reward with him with a trip to Chicago. She got kinda pouty about it( probably didn’t realize I was onto her.) “ But sweetie, he’s been so well behaved and sweet, we need to show him we appreciate it.” I told her I didn’t like the idea and she continued pouting “ but he’s so loving and trying to change and it’s a nice gesture and great family time”. I told her I had a better idea, I asked him if he wanted me to reserve a hotel room for him and his GF for the weekend”. He was pretty pumped. Next thing I heard was “ Honey, why aren’t you and I going?” I told her that it’d be more fun if it were just him and her. “ But, I wanted to have a spa day and maybe shop and have a quiet dinner”. I( feeling really weird, like I was consoling a teenage girl) told her. “ I’ll tell you what. Saturday morning I’ll bring you breakfast in bed and you can just lay in bed or sit in the hot tub and that can be a spa. I promise you won’t lift a finger all weekend and we can have a romantic dinner at home and you can shop” I got an eye roll and a “ Fine”. About a half hour later, she is in his room asking him if he’s sure he doesn’t want us there. She was forced to accept his wishes.
She isn’t being very subtle about her intentions. I told her I didn’t think it was really necessary to reward with him with a trip to Chicago. She got kinda pouty about it( probably didn’t realize I was onto her.) “ But sweetie, he’s been so well behaved and sweet, we need to show him we appreciate it.” I told her I didn’t like the idea and she continued pouting “ but he’s so loving and trying to change and it’s a nice gesture and great family time”. I told her I had a better idea, I asked him if he wanted me to reserve a hotel room for him and his GF for the weekend”. He was pretty pumped. Next thing I heard was “ Honey, why aren’t you and I going?” I told her that it’d be more fun if it were just him and her. “ But, I wanted to have a spa day and maybe shop and have a quiet dinner”. I( feeling really weird, like I was consoling a teenage girl) told her. “ I’ll tell you what. Saturday morning I’ll bring you breakfast in bed and you can just lay in bed or sit in the hot tub and that can be a spa. I promise you won’t lift a finger all weekend and we can have a romantic dinner at home and you can shop” I got an eye roll and a “ Fine”. About a half hour later, she is in his room asking him if he’s sure he doesn’t want us there. She was forced to accept his wishes.
Is there some point you plan on being open and honest about both her manipulation and your recognition of it?
Is there some point you plan on being open and honest about both her manipulation and your recognition of it?
Another "I second this"!
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