Buying for one child, not the other (non-birthday!!!) (games, parents, appropriate)
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I don't think you're wrong to be miffed, but you are setting up your family for a lifetime of difficult "equity" hoops to jump through.
Really it depends on what MIL dropped off and the context. How old are the kids? Does she do this often?
I have multiples, but they are different individuals. Sometimes one gets to do things the others don't do.
OK, the link wasn't there when I originally replied. Are you mad that she gave a DS? Is it the gift, or that she gave one to one kid but not the other?
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It is odd that she would not bring at least something for the other kid. Most grandparents I have known would do that.
If you don't already have some animosity toward her, I would be miffed that she bought a big gift that I may have wanted to "save" as a birthday/holiday gift and that she did it without consulting us the parents on whether it's appropriate. Equity would not be at the top of my list of reasons to be pissed.
It is odd that she would not bring at least something for the other kid. Most grandparents I have known would do that.
If you don't already have some animosity toward her, I would be miffed that she bought a big gift that I may have wanted to "save" as a birthday/holiday gift and that she did it without consulting us the parents on whether it's appropriate. Equity would not be at the top of my list of reasons to be pissed.
Even for a totally random present like this? Their birthdays are months away number one and it just seems very strange to buy for one and not the other. Now, if it was YDS birthday - totally different IMO.
It sounds like an opportunity to teach the children to share! Maybe she couldn't afford two. My grandma wasn't rich so my brother and I had to share our train set and other things that built a bond between us. If it is an issue for you buy one for the other child.
There is no special occasion or birthday or anything like that.
Does she do things like that often? I would be miffed that my parents/in laws bought one child an expensive gift for no reason and did not buy something for the other kids. Now there are times when the grandparents will see something that they think one of the kids will like and buy it without buying for the others, but usually those items are small, novelty things not big ticket items.
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