A new concept of Child Rearing and Parenting (babysitting, baby, single parent)
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I have this original idea that I want to share. People who adopt children are all ready part of this plan. Here goes. Instead of everybody trying to raise their own children. Why not have communities where a new married couple decide to help raise the community's children. Like we take your child for the week end and buy food and help with homework or just love on the child and bring the child back. Some other couple take the child the next week end or week night - whatever. This way not everybody that wants children has to raise their own - all by themselves. A group model as I have indicated should be explored. Seems like we would have far fewer unwanted children in the World. Far less poverty. Why is it that no one has ever kicked this idea around !!!
I actually practiced this concept just before I started pre med. I found a child from a broken marriage, at my church. He was 8 years old. I would take him on various weekends. We went to the lakes, water parks, I cooked for him, tried to share wisdom and just loved on him. He is an engineer today. I loved him as my own son. I got to full fill some parenting needs without having to create a child. I wish more people were practicing this concept around the world. Why is it such a rare occurance. The boy's dad I found out years later, was unfaithful to the mother, and that is why the marriage got broken. There were many brothers and sisters in this home.
it's called Big Brothers and Big Sisters and many communities have similar programs. Also common when communes were all the rage.
i personally would never send my kid(s) to spend time with people I did not know extremely well. What an invitation for trouble. and I would not want to take in somebody's kid without knowing something about the family and kid. Before we adopted 3 children we trained for foster parenting. For 3 months we learned about how many kids are so badly treated in some birth families and how traumatized these kids can be. You are expected to love them from a distance and always be ready to turn them back to abusive homes. i couldn't handle it.
it's called Big Brothers and Big Sisters and many communities have similar programs. Also common when communes were all the rage.
i personally would never send my kid(s) to spend time with people I did not know extremely well. What an invitation for trouble. and I would not want to take in somebody's kid without knowing something about the family and kid. Before we adopted 3 children we trained for foster parenting. For 3 months we learned about how many kids are so badly treated in some birth families and how traumatized these kids can be. You are expected to love them from a distance and always be ready to turn them back to abusive homes. i couldn't handle it.
Yeah, I immediately thought of Big Bros/Sis, too. Not really a new concept, but I wouldn't give my kids to anyone for a weekend but a very select few...like my parents, or my brothers/sister if my kids were up for that.
I think the Big Brother or Big Sister concept can be great for kids, especially kids who need more strong, caring adults in their lives. However, mangodog, your approach sounds like all kids would be passed around on weekends and possibly weeknights. I believe children need a secure, stable home life whenever possible. They need to spend time with their parents to bond and observe consistent behavior. When home life is unstable or unsafe, bringing in more adults to help is a terrific idea, but I don't think children's upbringing should be based upon a supposition that their parents don't love them or don't want to raise them.
To many people today don't know how to raise there own children,
which act like wild animals, and are very disrespectful to there parents
and I really don't want them raising mine. ...
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I think the Big Brother or Big Sister concept can be great for kids, especially kids who need more strong, caring adults in their lives. However, mangodog, your approach sounds like all kids would be passed around on weekends and possibly weeknights. I believe children need a secure, stable home life whenever possible. They need to spend time with their parents to bond and observe consistent behavior. When home life is unstable or unsafe, bringing in more adults to help is a terrific idea, but I don't think children's upbringing should be based upon a supposition that their parents don't love them or don't want to raise them.
I very much agree with you JustJulia..
Now, in my apartments there are many families, many single parent families as well. A large group of us, (known each other for a good amount of time) help watch out for and have a helping hand when needed with the others children. We are a community, we watch out for one another and for the children, as a team. But by no means is anyone raising anyone else's child, just sharing some of the burden, and able to help out and be there for one another. It's wonderful to have this type of community to call home!!
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